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Best Marriage Advice?

Would love to hear any tips and tricks people have for a happy marriage

Marriage Is Like A Contract
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thesalesdocrx
Valued Contributor
+5
SDR Manager
Don't go to bed angry, and set expectations.
Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
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TheSolicitorGeneral
Politicker
+5
Small Market AE
Openly communicate, donโ€™t hold grudges; take the time you need to cool off and donโ€™t go to bed angry.ย 

Never stop dating and having fun with one another. This is especially important when kids come along.ย 

Keep God at the center of your marriage.ย 
CuriousFox
WR Officer
+11
Needer of Life Alert
Don't do it. ๐Ÿคฃ
Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
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Justatitle
Politicker
+7
Senior AE
No joke if this wasnโ€™t already written I was going to write it.
captaincanuck
Enterprise Account Manager
Don't expect marriage to be 50/50 - that leads to keeping score. Marry someone where you each give a little more. Life can be difficult at times but when you each give a little more 1+1=3

Most importantly, find someone that makes you laugh.
GDO
Politicker
+6
BDM
Damn this is some good advice.ย 
34fifty
Valued Contributor
+5
Team Lead
Don't carry baggages. And importantly, don't create any.ย 
Telehealth_2the_Moon
Notable Contributor
+12
Director of Business Development
First, don't get married until you're sure you are ready for it. Same with kids. You can avoid a lot of shit if you just take some time beforehand.

Have open communication. Set time to talk, about hard stuff and just stuff, throughout the week.
Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
Agreed, but with most things hard to tell when you're ready. That being said, seems like planning accordingly can save a lot of time and headache
Telehealth_2the_Moon
Notable Contributor
+12
Director of Business Development
That's a valid point. I think it's very hard to tell, but if you're worried about if you can tell or not then you're ahead of the curve regarding a lot of people.
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SADNES5
Politicker
+6
Business Development
It's a full time job. Marrying your best friend, sometimes you will disagree, sometimes you will be frustrated/annoyed... But it all comes down to putting in the work. Compromise. Communicate. Don't blame, show how actions = others feelings.ย 


Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
Great point. Even best friends have disagreements. All about communicating!
Salespreuner
Big Shot
+11
Regional Sales Director
Transparency, honesty and integrity pays off well and the journey together is a success for sure, p.s : never have grudges
1nbatopshotfan
Politicker
+5
Senior Director, Enterprise Technology
Just like sales, take notes. Eventually you both forget everything thatโ€™s not written down.ย 
Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
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MrMotivation
Politicker
+4
Sales
I just finished reading the book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work." I highly recommend it. It changed my life and my appreciation for my Partner, and we already had a phenomenal relationship prior to my reading it. Also recommend the "Go Giver" book as well
GDO
Politicker
+6
BDM
Anything in particular you pikked up in the book?
TheRealTommyCallahan
Arsonist
+6
Assistant to the Account Executive
Set goals together. Sounds corny, I know, but ever since my wife and I started setting goals we have been a lot happier!
SDMHGWarrior
Tycoon
+13
CEO
Run, don't do it. If you must, keep in mind 20 years from now that it's cheaper to keep her.
Fi
Finance
Good Citizen
Helping folks with their money (licensed)
Communication is key.ย  You may not agree on everything, but so long as you validate one another and respect one another's opinions, you should be good to go.

IMO, going to bed angry is okay (the feeling sucks though).ย  Sometimes you need the space to think things through before you share and hear things clearly.ย  Talking the next day about it may be a good option, too.
MrsTechSales
Politicker
+9
Midwest Market Manager
Agree totally... I've gone to bed angry a million times because I didn't have the capacity to discuss something without saying things I'd regret. Clarity and the sun both always seem to rise together!
JJASBE
Catalyst
+6
Sr. AE
Let your spouse in on more about your job than is natural.ย  Empathy, understanding and expectations are often tied to how much insight they have.ย ย 
nomdeguerre
Valued Contributor
+5
VP of Channel Partner Sales
Happy Wife, Happy Life
Rigeyyy
Opinionated
+1
Account Executive
Donโ€™t go to bed angry, and be willing to lovingly hash out the hard conversations.ย 
CCISAP
Fire Starter
+2
CEO
DO NOT work togetherย 
MMMGood
Celebrated Contributor
+10
Senior Account Executive
Hands down, humility.ย 
Dr.Sales
Executive
1) a daily commitment 2) always keep dating
Lambda
Politicker
+6
Sales Consultant
dont get married, stay with the person you love, why bring the government in?
Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
Good point. Who needs a prenup when you never get the government involved in the first place๐Ÿคฃ
Incognito
WR Officer
+10
Master of Disaster
Read everything by Esther Perel
paddy
WR Officer
+10
Account Executive
Stay single forever.
funcoupons
WR Officer
+11
Kahluapons
Not married, myself but I'd say - choose your partner wisely! Make sure you have similar enough goals for your lives and agree on all the major topics (kids, religion, money, where you want to live...) BEFORE getting married. I really don't understand people who want three kids would want to get married to their partner, who wants zero. That shit is destined to fail.ย 
thebishop
Catalyst
+6
Sr. Sales Executive
Bigger the commish... better the marriage. lol jk. Always give more than you take.ย 
CCP
Opinionated
+5
VP, Business Development
Get super f'ing organized and methodical with your selling process. I spent 10 years working 10-12 hour days. When my daughter was born that was no longer an option for me. So I developed a system (time blocking was key) that made me more productive in 8 hours than I had been in 12 hours. Family time is the most important.ย 
MrsTechSales
Politicker
+9
Midwest Market Manager
When my husband and I first got married we would have "pet peeve sessions" where each of us would get to politely exchange a pet peeve that the other would then make a commitment to working on.ย 

"I hate when you leave your guitars all over the house, instead of putting them away when you're done"ย 

"I hate that I pick up hair ties everywhere"ย 

It was a really great way for us to each try to do something to better ourselves for the other person, in manageable increments.ย 
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