Would love to hear any tips and tricks people have for a happy marriage
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Best Marriage Advice?
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Don't go to bed angry, and set expectations.
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Openly communicate, don’t hold grudges; take the time you need to cool off and don’t go to bed angry.
Never stop dating and having fun with one another. This is especially important when kids come along.
Keep God at the center of your marriage.
Never stop dating and having fun with one another. This is especially important when kids come along.
Keep God at the center of your marriage.
Don't do it. 🤣
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No joke if this wasn’t already written I was going to write it.
Don't expect marriage to be 50/50 - that leads to keeping score. Marry someone where you each give a little more. Life can be difficult at times but when you each give a little more 1+1=3
Most importantly, find someone that makes you laugh.
Most importantly, find someone that makes you laugh.
Damn this is some good advice.
Don't carry baggages. And importantly, don't create any.
First, don't get married until you're sure you are ready for it. Same with kids. You can avoid a lot of shit if you just take some time beforehand.
Have open communication. Set time to talk, about hard stuff and just stuff, throughout the week.
Have open communication. Set time to talk, about hard stuff and just stuff, throughout the week.
Agreed, but with most things hard to tell when you're ready. That being said, seems like planning accordingly can save a lot of time and headache
That's a valid point. I think it's very hard to tell, but if you're worried about if you can tell or not then you're ahead of the curve regarding a lot of people.
You’re never 100% ready. It still is a “jump”.
It's a full time job. Marrying your best friend, sometimes you will disagree, sometimes you will be frustrated/annoyed... But it all comes down to putting in the work. Compromise. Communicate. Don't blame, show how actions = others feelings.
Great point. Even best friends have disagreements. All about communicating!
Just like sales, take notes. Eventually you both forget everything that’s not written down.
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Transparency, honesty and integrity pays off well and the journey together is a success for sure, p.s : never have grudges
Read everything by Esther Perel
I just finished reading the book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work." I highly recommend it. It changed my life and my appreciation for my Partner, and we already had a phenomenal relationship prior to my reading it. Also recommend the "Go Giver" book as well
Anything in particular you pikked up in the book?
Stay single forever.
Not married, myself but I'd say - choose your partner wisely! Make sure you have similar enough goals for your lives and agree on all the major topics (kids, religion, money, where you want to live...) BEFORE getting married. I really don't understand people who want three kids would want to get married to their partner, who wants zero. That shit is destined to fail.
Set goals together. Sounds corny, I know, but ever since my wife and I started setting goals we have been a lot happier!
Run, don't do it. If you must, keep in mind 20 years from now that it's cheaper to keep her.
Communication is key. You may not agree on everything, but so long as you validate one another and respect one another's opinions, you should be good to go.
IMO, going to bed angry is okay (the feeling sucks though). Sometimes you need the space to think things through before you share and hear things clearly. Talking the next day about it may be a good option, too.
IMO, going to bed angry is okay (the feeling sucks though). Sometimes you need the space to think things through before you share and hear things clearly. Talking the next day about it may be a good option, too.
Agree totally... I've gone to bed angry a million times because I didn't have the capacity to discuss something without saying things I'd regret. Clarity and the sun both always seem to rise together!
Let your spouse in on more about your job than is natural. Empathy, understanding and expectations are often tied to how much insight they have.
Happy Wife, Happy Life
Don’t go to bed angry, and be willing to lovingly hash out the hard conversations.
DO NOT work together
Hands down, humility.
1) a daily commitment 2) always keep dating
dont get married, stay with the person you love, why bring the government in?
Good point. Who needs a prenup when you never get the government involved in the first place🤣
Bigger the commish... better the marriage. lol jk. Always give more than you take.
Get super f'ing organized and methodical with your selling process. I spent 10 years working 10-12 hour days. When my daughter was born that was no longer an option for me. So I developed a system (time blocking was key) that made me more productive in 8 hours than I had been in 12 hours. Family time is the most important.
When my husband and I first got married we would have "pet peeve sessions" where each of us would get to politely exchange a pet peeve that the other would then make a commitment to working on.
"I hate when you leave your guitars all over the house, instead of putting them away when you're done"
"I hate that I pick up hair ties everywhere"
It was a really great way for us to each try to do something to better ourselves for the other person, in manageable increments.
"I hate when you leave your guitars all over the house, instead of putting them away when you're done"
"I hate that I pick up hair ties everywhere"
It was a really great way for us to each try to do something to better ourselves for the other person, in manageable increments.
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