Ladies, do you have trouble when dating because you make more money than most of the men you date?
I've had quite a few good guys get too in their heads about me making more than them. What do you do? Lie?
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Dating as a Rich Bish
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I'm not a lady but I'm gonna use this opportunity to shamelessly plug myself as a great candidate for a trophy husband. I'm really funny (have a knack for impersonating people), am only moderately overweight (can be persuaded to do spin class so long as you pay but doesn't sound like that should be a problem), and have a drinking problem but what good housewife/husband doesn't??
But can you do that special move with the spins and hit the right place every time?
The only question that truly matters when acquiring talent
The only question that truly matters when acquiring talent
somethings you just get what you pay for.
I've always said I need to date a fellow sales person but my friends are quick to tell me that we would burn each other to the ground.
I’m drawn towards dating other sales people. It can be a bad thing if you’re not the right fit for each other in other ways but if you vibe and can actually understand each other’s profession it’s the cherry on top of the cake.
Also drawn to personalities and traits for people that generally do well in sales so if I refused to date a fellow savage that would rule out a lot of the men who are my “type.”
Also drawn to personalities and traits for people that generally do well in sales so if I refused to date a fellow savage that would rule out a lot of the men who are my “type.”
I don’t know remotely enough about you or the other theoretical sales person but the phrasing of this is certainly funny.
What do you mean?
yeah. I'm not against it at all, my friends are scared tho.
"We would burn each other to the ground"
it would be an empowered time of self destruction and partying for me
I don't even watch reality TV and I want to see this happen.
My partner is in sales, he is a sales engineer and thinks that he's the shit! Plus he also keeps saying that he is in real tech (me ,I'm in SaaS - so it's not too teckie) - insert eye roll.
Careful what you wish for!
Careful what you wish for!
I hope for your sake he’s rly hot to make up for being annoying as fuck.
That he is 😜😉
I'd watch that movie.
I would 100% be a trophy husband. I'd also be a power couple DINK with a lady who makes more than me. I wouldn't say I'm rich, but I'm definitely above average. It would definitely spark something in me to "compete", but it wouldn't be a negative.
Yo. I live this life. My wife makes nearly 50 racks more than me a year and we live that dope dink life.
Nailed it. If I liked dudes, you'd be my first choice as a trophy husband, paddy.
LMFAOOO this was along the lines of but a way better response than I was going to write
Gotta take your shot
@paddy You're a Legend, sir.
I make more than my husband (like double) and he's delighted. Find yourself a man who's not intimidated by your success.
where they at tho?
FWIW, one of my best friends dated/lived with somebody who DESTROYED him in earnings (she made well over $300k and he was making $100kish at the time) and they were both perfectly happy with the arrangement.
@Biznasty I have no idea haha I found mine on OKCupid but I do not recommend it.
The hard part is finding someone who's equally ambitious and also okay with you earning more. I got super lucky there.
The hard part is finding someone who's equally ambitious and also okay with you earning more. I got super lucky there.
Lol! I met mine there too!
Yes! Congrats! We've been together for 8 years so apparently it worked! Delighted to know someone else is in the same boat.
God bless, thats great!
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You don’t need that kind of small dick energy in your life.
On a more serious note, when I first met my fiancé he made half of what I did (to be fair, I was pulling in major cash at that point). Neither of us cared, because we were both passionate about what we did. Now he’s surpassed me and I think we will be about even in the end (actually fuck that. Imma make more but he’s still gonna pull like $400k min).
and that’s the key - go for the person who has ambition. Personally, I don’t give a flying fuck what you do. Could be basket weaving. But you better bust your ass at it and strive to be the best fucking basket weaver on the planet.
or just be really fucking hot and do what I tell you and service me in any way I desire. I’m paying, bitch.
On a more serious note, when I first met my fiancé he made half of what I did (to be fair, I was pulling in major cash at that point). Neither of us cared, because we were both passionate about what we did. Now he’s surpassed me and I think we will be about even in the end (actually fuck that. Imma make more but he’s still gonna pull like $400k min).
and that’s the key - go for the person who has ambition. Personally, I don’t give a flying fuck what you do. Could be basket weaving. But you better bust your ass at it and strive to be the best fucking basket weaver on the planet.
or just be really fucking hot and do what I tell you and service me in any way I desire. I’m paying, bitch.
I make REALLY nice baskets, tbf.
^^^^^^ all of this. Where'd you find that man? Does he have a brother?
I don’t think it matters WHERE you meet someone, just that you look for specific qualities. And it’s totally okay to have a placeholder, but just be singleminded when it comes to what you want.
Manifest that girl. That shit works.
Real talk: I don’t date men if they don’t make more than me.
I’m not here to be a sugar mama and I’m not going to downgrade my bougie lifestyle so some mans can feel more secure. Winners only. 💁♀️
I’m not here to be a sugar mama and I’m not going to downgrade my bougie lifestyle so some mans can feel more secure. Winners only. 💁♀️
I think exceptions can always be made
No
I mean, I just do not care at all how much another person makes. I care about my money only. I've never been someone who gets fixated on it even before I was making sales money. If I was a man and my chick made more than me I'd be pumped.
Disclaimer I’m not rich, I make good money but am early on in my career. So it’s not like I make 300k and would only date a guy who made more than that. My expectations are that the person I’m with also makes good money.
I do care about income but not for superficial reasons. I don’t expect a man to fund my lifestyle whatsoever. But I do have aggressive financial goals and a future in mind that requires a specific income level. I need someone with the same viewpoint and drive to make it happen for themselves as well so we can share that future together.
I do care about income but not for superficial reasons. I don’t expect a man to fund my lifestyle whatsoever. But I do have aggressive financial goals and a future in mind that requires a specific income level. I need someone with the same viewpoint and drive to make it happen for themselves as well so we can share that future together.
Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.
yeah sorry. I was not meaning to make it sound like you only care about money. my comment was poorly worded
No no. I just wanted to clarify. There are superficial goldiggers out there but coups ain’t one. I dig my own gold.
Commenting here as a man... if a man is insecure about a girl making more than him then he ain't worth the time
Im out of the dating game #lockedinmyanswer, but if I was dating and I found a beautiful woman who made more than me, it would just be another reason to see her as a financially responsible potential partner (hopefully) who is badass.
For any guys who are insecure about it, that is just sad. And if they are in sales then they should work harder if they really care that much.
For any guys who are insecure about it, that is just sad. And if they are in sales then they should work harder if they really care that much.
Right? Like what’s more flattering than, “I CHOOSE to be with you - I don’t NEED you for a damned thing”
Allll the tiiimmmmmeee. In NYC I had a date tell me he didn't want to continue seeing me because I am "too bougie" after he found out my apartment had central air and I lived alone. Another one got all fake dom because he said I made too much money to be submissive. And my favorite one kept trying to name drop his extended wealthy and semi-famous family, although he was an Uber driver.
It's a rough sea out there for fishing these days, so I cut bait for the time being.
It's a rough sea out there for fishing these days, so I cut bait for the time being.
I feel like we should be friends.
Best friends.
I’m also in nyc. And have a glorious leather bag full of fun for boys AND girls. Just saying 👀
Best friends.
I’m also in nyc. And have a glorious leather bag full of fun for boys AND girls. Just saying 👀
Don't waste your time with weak specimens
my husband loves that I make more, but I think it also motivates the hell out of him to level up
Same sentiment! Although I currently make more, it's only pushed his ambition!
And yes I’m commenting twice because I will never tire of sharing this video
https://youtu.be/QDuijpAJCHw
(There is a backstory)
https://youtu.be/QDuijpAJCHw
(There is a backstory)
goalz
I don’t think you can only focus on that. You could date a dude that makes double what you do with zero budgeting habits…so what’s better? I think you have more questions to ask aside from “what’s your OTE?”
For reference, I make 5x what my husband makes. We have been together a long time so it wasn’t always like this but I don’t think it matters. He loves his job, supports my career, etc.
To each their own I suppose though!
for sure. I'm not focused on how much they make. I don't care.
Ah got it. Are you just saying you don’t like it when they get too into their heads about it? Like if you met a dude that was cool about and supportive, it’s all good?
100% I’m looking for a stay at home dog dad
Man here. I make insanely more than my wife now. There was a time though just before I got into sales that she brought in more than myself and was the difference in us making rent. I'm grateful for that moment in our life and for my wife.
Was a big part of what brought me into the SaaS sales world and now I make more than enough, enabling my wife to do something because she enjoys it and not for the money.
She's part of a professional dance company that does live performances in theaters and resorts. Michael Jackson shows, Latin dance shows, Mexican folklore. The pay is atrocious but not a factor for us.
Was a big part of what brought me into the SaaS sales world and now I make more than enough, enabling my wife to do something because she enjoys it and not for the money.
She's part of a professional dance company that does live performances in theaters and resorts. Michael Jackson shows, Latin dance shows, Mexican folklore. The pay is atrocious but not a factor for us.
I've had a few insecure men like that. It didn't last and wouldn't work out anyways due to their insecurities. My fiance is fine and happy with it. We still split things but he doesn't mind being spoiled :)
My boyfriend is supportive of me making more money but also treats me like a piggy bank sometimes...he just finished a medical degree & has 6 figures in debt.
Drives me nuts tbh. I was on a work trip 2 weeks ago & the guys I worked with wouldn’t let me pay for anything, hard not to compare
Yeah. I don't mind sharing the love but I like to keep my finances to myself to be honest.
To be frank, this is one of the reasons I broke things off with my fiancé earlier this year. While many things contributed to the decision, the constant expectation that I would be the breadwinner, handle domestic responsibilities, then act like he was the one footing the bills to outside parties helped paint the picture of the man I was about to marry.
You can only slyly pass your debit card under the table at dinner so many times before you fucking lose it.
If your man can't respect the fact that you work hard for what you have, he's probably a petulant child wearing his dad's clothes, and you want nothing to do with it.
You can only slyly pass your debit card under the table at dinner so many times before you fucking lose it.
If your man can't respect the fact that you work hard for what you have, he's probably a petulant child wearing his dad's clothes, and you want nothing to do with it.
I make more than my husband (like double) and he's delighted. Find yourself a man who's not intimidated by your success.
I make more than my husband (like double) and he's delighted.
@funcoupons
……..is fucking awesome?
I can verify this is true
Sounds like you may be fishing in the wrong pond. My wife is finishing up her advanced degree, and I can't wait until she makes more than me.
yeah someone shit in the dating pool.
I can only speak for myself, but yearly I make about 6 times what my partner does now and it doesn't appear to bother her in the slightest. The growing designer handbag collection over the last 3 years helps.
For us it also helps because we don't consider it my money or her money, it's our money. We each have the same personal spend budget, and the bulk of our combined earnings goes to investments currently.
For us it also helps because we don't consider it my money or her money, it's our money. We each have the same personal spend budget, and the bulk of our combined earnings goes to investments currently.
I'm married with 3 kids, but if you make more than me I'm fully willing to sell out... just saying never say never
How do they know you make more money? Are you telling them?
If so thats laaaaaaaaaame
If so thats laaaaaaaaaame
No. But there are times when it's obvious. Also, I'm not talking first dates I'm talking month 2 of dating.
I count myself among the lucky ones whose wife makes more than I do. She isn't in sales, but it doesn't bother me at all. As a matter of fact, I love it because it means that we're able to provide a great life for our family. And, she's smart, ambitious, an AWESOME mom and a great wife. Plus, she doesn't give me shit for golfing once a week.
First year I pulled in 6 figures, fiancé pulled in $725k. I have closed the gap and with COVID her business took a hit. It’s all about communication. Don’t tell someone what they can or can’t do with their money. Unless children are involved.
Are you looking for a Canadian boyfriend? DMs open.
👀 I could be persuaded
I make more than my husband (like double) and he's delighted. Find yourself a man who's not intimidated by your success.
As a wise man by the name of Future once said, "Bitch don't get too comfortable."
Hey I'm pulling for you regardless - the rarest thing in sales is a normal good day. Some say it's rarer than a perfect game in baseball.
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