Ever date someone on the team or even a boss??

In today's age of remote work and less office time it may be less often....but for those the road traveling together regularly people get close.


Has this happened to you?


Would you nip in the bud or go for it and strive to remain professional?


Should I Date someone at work

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🏄 Personal Life
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Saasmaven
Praised Answer
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Enterprise Account Executive
I met my husband at work. We were dating different people at the time, got laid off together during the first dot com bust, both of us got 3 months grace pay, we ended up surfing every day/eating pho/partying every weekend together. Been married 19 years now with 2 kids and 2 houses (San Mateo & Elk Grove) so it worked out pretty well for us.
braintank
Politicker
1
Enterprise Account Executive
But y'all weren't employed together when you started dating, right?
Saasmaven
Praised Answer
1
Enterprise Account Executive
@braintankWe started dating a few months before the company filed Chapter 11, so yeah we were haha! 😏
Pachacuti
Politicker
1
They call me Daddy, Sales Daddy
Funny… I lived in Elk Grove, ca years ago.
Saasmaven
Praised Answer
1
Enterprise Account Executive
Elk Grove has grown so much over the years… thankfully so bc our home was underwater for almost 10 years before we started to have any equity in it. We purchased in 2005 which was a really bad time to buy.
Sunbunny31
Politicker
6
Sr Sales Executive 🐰
I know people who have met their future spouse at work, but in no cases were they on the same team, and always at larger companies. That said, there are soooo many reasons to not do this, especially as described (traveling together? shudder).
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
2
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
This is a big company and not on the same team. But still not sure it would be a good idea unless one of us leaves.
Sunbunny31
Politicker
2
Sr Sales Executive 🐰
Well, that's on the cusp, but if it's a real friendship that might lead somewhere... that's different than a lust-driven relationship for convenience.

Still difficult if things go south when you're at the same company, but in a big company/different divisions, there's often room to hide and as long as you remain professional and don't gossip, it could work.
UrAssIsSaaS
Arsonist
6
SaaS Eater
I met my fiance through work. I wouldnt necessarily recommend it but if you two can be adults and its not just a flash in the pan it can work.
jefe
Arsonist
5
🍁
Don't shit where you eat, friend
Corpslovechild
Politicker
1
Inbound Sales Manager
But girls don't poop. This only applies to half the people here.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
2
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
haha LOL
jefe
Arsonist
1
🍁
Almost forgot..
Corpslovechild
Politicker
0
Inbound Sales Manager
Am I wrong?
Gasty
Notable Contributor
4
War Room Community Manager
Twice [Limca Book of World Record Holder]
CuriousFox
WR Officer
3
🦊
Prolly best not to mix it.
NotCreativeEnough
Big Shot
3
Professional Day Ruiner
Have I? Yes. And I got lucky that it didn't blow up in my face. I feel like I'm in the minority of people who didn't end up in a bad/awkward situation because of it though.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
2
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Oh wow your one of the fortunate ones.
TennisandSales
Politicker
2
Head Of Sales
no. i have never seen this work out personally haha. I know it happens, but MAN it sounds dangerous.
braintank
Politicker
2
Enterprise Account Executive
I'd avoid it. So much downside.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
2
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Yeah that's what I'm thinking too! Thanks
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
2
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Yes...more cons than pros.
Corpslovechild
Politicker
0
Inbound Sales Manager
way more cons then pros
DungeonsNDemos
Big Shot
2
Rolling 20's all day
It's a recipe for disaster. So many things can go wrong and then fuck up your work-life balance.
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
2
Officer of ♥️
It's important to differentiate between if they are being friendly and polite or actually forming a genuine friendship connection with you and you to are a good match for each other, people spend 80% of their lives at work, the odds of meeting your spouse there or at school is high. Don't let your soulmate slip away because you're afraid of politics
draculina
Fire Starter
2
process development specialist
Yeaaahhh… i would strongly advise against this. I’ve seen a manager dating someone from the adjacent team and well… please don’t.
NoSuperhero
Politicker
2
BDR LEAD
In my experience, it usually never goes well. This is in my own life and witnessing how things develop with coworkers. Very Very VERY small percentage survive and thrive. But, there's always the bad talk and if both are in managerial roles oh man, regardless if they merit the position or not, it's going to be questioned by someone.
FinanceEngineer
Politicker
1
Sr Director, sales and partnerships
I have not, but I have a very close coworker and friend who helped me buy my engagement ring. She was one of my wife’s bridesmaids. Eventually, actually recently, she married another person from the office. Same department too.
draculina
Fire Starter
1
process development specialist
I had a friend similar at work, his gf (also at the office) was apparently jealous of us, to the point he even stopped interacting me regarding business things in a timely manner :( I’m very happy it worked out for you guys tho!
SaaSyBee
Politicker
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Founder
Two of my best friends met at work and still work together. They've been married for a year now. It seems to work for them, but it's odd. They're on the same team and it's made the team growth odd because neither of them can report to the other because of company policy.
CatMom
Politicker
1
Account Executive
It’s been almost 7 years now and couldn’t be happier! Neither of us was reporting to the other and we weren’t on the same team. He was in sales ops I was an AE. Def would never ever recommend it if one of you reports to the other!
Dipanjan
1
Country sales manager Qatar
No
Justatitle
Big Shot
1
Account Executive
At a former company it felt like everyone was bumping uglies. With remote work it makes it easier. As long as it doesn’t affect your work who cares right. Just ask Elon.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
2
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Exactly, I walled in on a couple once making out as that was about to happen. Now being remote isn't as risky as before in my opinion, but I def wouldn't date a boss.
nomdeguerre
Executive
1
Account executive
Don’t shit where you eat.
Pachacuti
Politicker
1
They call me Daddy, Sales Daddy
You should absolutely date co-workers. What could possibly go wrong? Especially when you find them on tinder.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
0
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
😂🤣 never used tinder!
YoursTruly
Politicker
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Account Executive (SaaS)
I dated a gal on my team and it didn’t work out. It was super awkward after and while i don’t necessarily regret it, we probably shouldn’t have.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
1
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Ok that's what I was wondering it would be so awkward after
Avon
Politicker
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Senior Account Executive
I know a lot of people who met their spouses at work. I think its worth the gamble if you really think there's long term compatibility. Just hooking up is f*cking stupid.
MrFinkle
Personal Narrative
1
Account Manager
All is fair in love and war. If it’s just about lust - don’t do it.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
1
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Wise advise thank you 😊
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
1
Officer of ♥️
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WenWest15
Valued Contributor
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Principal Business Development Manager
Met my now ex-husband at work, but worked for different teams in completely different market verticals. I think if there isn't reporting conflict, it can be ok. And you always have someone to bounce around work issues with who actually gets it!
Palladium_Rog
Valued Contributor
1
Account Executive
I'd advice to never ever date your workmate. If it works then great but if it fails, the downsides can go as severe as ruining/blocking your career. So, if you're a gambling person then yeah, go for it.
saasbaby
Politicker
1
SDR
I've dated someone from work one time. Worst mistake I ever made.

Just don't do it. lol
antiASKHOLE
Tycoon
1
Bravado's Resident Asshole
Not once nor will I ever
queenops
Opinionated
0
Maker of Sales
My boss tried to date me at an old job. I let him believe this was a possibility for a while because I enjoyed his company and really liked my job. He was married so I never let it progress past him taking me out to dinner and buying me gifts, but eventually even that felt too wrong. He got very control-y when I cut it off and I had to quit shortly after. I ended up moving towns completely because he couldn’t let it go.

Never flirt with or date someone with whom you have an authority dynamic. You will get fucked (and not in the fun way 🙃)
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
1
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
thank you for sharing, have a nice weekend.
Corpslovechild
Politicker
0
Inbound Sales Manager
If this is a job for you.... yeah fuck it. If it's your career then don't risk it.
Fortress
Contributor
0
Channel Sales Manager
I'm married to my previous Microsoft resource... haha.

Now have 2 children, a mortgage and both continue to work in similar roles just at different companies. Its nice because we're able to bounce ideas off each other.
sharpshooter2
Catalyst
0
MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Thank you for sharing. Have a great rest of the week :)
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