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Has your work negatively affected any of your personal relationships?

I stay connected to work in my free time and days off which includes taking calls here and there and replying to important emails and texts. Obviously, I work late here and there as well.


However, 2 years ago I had to miss an anniversary weekend away with my now-ex as I was saddled with a huge project on Friday, literally 2-3 hours before we were planning on leaving. Had to work through the weekend, non-negotiable. Got in a huge fight with said-ex, which ended up being the first fight in a string of many that ultimately ended the relationship.


No longer with that company, and didn't really realize it was an unhealthy work/life balance until afterward. I'm now with a company where I have a much healthier balance, but still occasionally have to bail on plans.


Do you have any stories of when work became a hindrance in any friendships/relationships?

Work affected your relationships?
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Beans
Politicker
+5
Account Executive
I've dropped friends who don't have the same growth mentality.

We're not 22 anymore, getting lit in your basement and rehashing the same stories for the last 10 years got old real quick.
BigCheese
Arsonist
+8
Agency Recruiter
Some people just don't grow up, and that's okay, but I'm with you. I want my circle as inspired and motivated as myself.
kiraugais
WR Officer
+9
I work on the WR product
My housemate is my colleague ๐Ÿ˜‚it so happens we have an altercation once in a while, but we are too good of friends to let it mess with us.
BigCheese
Arsonist
+8
Agency Recruiter
Did this in college with a guy that I worked with. Casual kitchen job, but annoyances from work definitely carried into the household at times. All good though!
Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
I will lose my job before I lose a relationship I value. When I'm on my deathbed you can bet your bottom dollar I'm not going to be stressed because I missed a demo
BigCheese
Arsonist
+8
Agency Recruiter
Trust me, I'm with you there. But it's not always that black and white. If I knew that was going to be the event that ultimately ended our relationship, I would've quit then and there. At the same time, obviously we weren't on the same page and a different event may have very well had the same result.
YOTPO
Fire Starter
+1
Account Executive
In sales, there is really no way around it sometimes. Duty calls and you need to hop on a call or work on a proposal to meet a deadline and the plans for dinner or the movie you were planning on watching gets pushed aside.ย 

My wife has always been very understanding and knows that it's just the nature of my job. That doesn't mean she's always 100% understanding. I've made myself familiar with the couch a couple of times after a canceled date night.ย 
BigCheese
Arsonist
+8
Agency Recruiter
I feel the key here is that foundational understanding and transparent communication. Stuff like that's going to happen, and it's not intentional from either party. Props to you and your wife.
c4miller
Opinionated
+2
Sr. Account Executive
I've gotten in some bad fights here and there due to work but not so much anymore now that my fiance understands that support structure goes both ways and we will both have something work-related carry over into home life and neither of us needs to play the victim no matter who's job it is. It kind of goes with keeping a positive and motivated social circle that doesn't bash you for missing plans because you care enough to build up your career.ย 
BigCheese
Arsonist
+8
Agency Recruiter
Sounds like you've both grown to a point of understanding and built a healthy relationship. Shout out to you, that's crucial. I agree with you on the latter as well.
c4miller
Opinionated
+2
Sr. Account Executive
Thanks! It's always a process but sounds like you are headed in the same direction and it will be good to shake some of the negativity/deadweight in the old friend group and/or future relationships. Best of luck!
CuriousFox
WR Officer
+11
Needer of Life Alert
How does the saying go? You know you're doing well at work when your personal life is falling apart?

I don't agree with the statement entirely but can see some truth in it. It's amazing how much your views change with age.
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