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Husband/Wife working in the same company

Hello Everyone - wasn't sure at all, but decided to give it a try.


My husband was moved to the same department I've been working for 3yrs now. I enjoy my work and the internal dynamic we have with the team: times, workload, partnership, etc.


And now this feels kinda awkward.


We talk about it last week, but yesterday we had a not-so-gentle talk and it feels totally uncool. I love spending time (everything) with him but not really talk about work and I feel pressured when he's around (as if he's auditing what I'm doing idk ><") - Is this normal in the first weeks?


Any advice?





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Jackywaky
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Senior AM
This is not good - draw the line and avoid confrontation due to that constant friction. Talk to him, let him understand ( GENTLY ) he's the new guy ( in that area ) - show him your workflow so he can understand he cannot be disruptive on it - especially if you've been long time there.Β 
Swarthymovie
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SDR
The best is thing to do would be avoid working in te same place but if it happens, just draw a line
looper1010
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Account Executive
I'd talk about it and draw some boundaries (nothing too serious) such as meeting only at lunch, or strictly keeping personal and work conversations separate when at the office.Β Β 

Are you on equal footing at the office of different hierarchies?Β  This could affect things too in the office environment.
DungeonsNDemos
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Rolling for Initiative
I love my wife but I don’t think we would do well to work together in the same department if we were at the same company. Mixing friendships and work can be tricky, let alone the person you are closest to. Hopefully it’s not where one of you is above the other. Having very defined boundaries and roles should help.
Rallier
Politicker
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Account Executive
Yeah I would not like that. Is there any way one of you could be transferred? Is it also out of the question to look at finding a new role at a different company?
funcoupons
WR Officer
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that's queen coups to u
This isn't an ideal situation. One of you needs to transfer or find a new job. It's too much to be both married and working alongside someone.Β 
Beans
Politicker
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Account Executive
Yea I would be uncomfortable with this, you need to compartmentalize some parts of your life.Β 
GDO
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BDM
Communicatie boundaries. Just agree what and how you both will handle the situationΒ 
No_ty
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thank you everyone for the msgs.
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