Hey savages, I need some advice. Strap in.
I went to a party over the weekend hosted by someone in my company - I'll call him Steve. I've only been here a couple months, so I wasn't too familiar with who this person was - I just went because my team would be there.
To spare the intricacies, I was with about 4 of my colleagues and things were beginning to wind down. As I was charging my phone to call a Lyft, I was motioned by Steve's fiancée to follow her. I thought nothing of it; she seems like a very sweet girl. Figured she had a question for me or something.
Well, Steve joined her, and we're in their room for a private conversation. At this point, Steve begins asking about my relationship status, getting too personal for comfort. He then asks if I would like to have some fun with them - I was a bit shocked, but gathered myself enough to politely decline. After I've said no, he then asks if he "could at least kiss me." I stood up, said that would cross a strong boundary, left the room, gathered my purse and phone, and walked outside to order and wait for a Lyft.
On my way out, he told me to keep this between us. When I got home and pulled up my laptop, I realized that Steve is the manager of the sales team I'd be moving to in the case I choose to stay in sales at this company. I've seen him around a few times now, and I'm very uncomfortable around him.
So, what would you do? Being new here with no physical proof of this, it feels like I'd be shooting myself in the foot by telling anyone. On the other hand, this will impact my career choices within this company, as I have no desire to work under him.
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