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Is it ok to take a couple months off work while I get my mental health in order?

I have really been struggling with motivation and desire to do any type of work for about 6 months which goes hand-in-hand with my depression. I have tried a bunch of fixes but I really feel like I need to move back home (I'm 26) and not work for a couple months and focus on feeling like myself again. I know my parents would be disappointed because I currently have a great job, but they would still support me during that period. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

Is it ok to just not work for a few months while I get my mental health in order?
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funcoupons
WR Officer
+11
that's queen coups to u
It would be totally fine to take a few months off to recover from a broken back. Mental health is health too. Of course it's ok - take the time you need.
Incognito
WR Officer
+11
Master of Disaster
And I’m the dumbass who didn’t even go to the hospital when I broke my neck. Just kept working……. I regret that every single day of my life. Don’t be stupid like me.
Swarthymovie
Arsonist
+7
SDR
Agree x1000
CadenceCombat
Tycoon
+13
Account Executive
That’s what I’ve been doing for the last couple of months and I feel like its done some good but I’m independent and live on my own without having to lean on my parents for support.

To me, this is the aspect you should try to sort out for yourself if at all possible.

It’s one thing if you need some time to reset and, ideally, introduce good habits to get back to 100%… It’s another thing to impose yourself as a burden on your parents like that. Is there any way you can convince your employer to give you an exit that would make you eligible for employment insurance, for example?
funcoupons
WR Officer
+11
that's queen coups to u
Great point from Cadence (as usual.) I also recommend trying to remain self sufficient...taking a step back and moving in with parents may make you feel more depressed. Nobody likes feeling like a burden or like they've lost their independence. 
Kinonez
Celebrated Contributor
+9
WR Enthusiast
Yes it is, and I'm tired of pretending it's not!
West
Politicker
+3
Salesmanager
Your mental health is more important than the test, the interview, the lunch date, the meeting, the family dinner, the sports game, the rectical, and the grocery run. Take care of yourself!
eds
Opinionated
+3
Salesy
The question is, who says how much time you need, if you're self-prescribing it's hard to justify.
Wanna.Be.Rick.Spielman
Opinionated
+3
Account Executive
that's a great point
uncorpse
Politicker
+5
Sales Development
The more you give yourself the more you can give others! Take some time and come back with only positive vibes! And never forget about the bigger picture! 
FamilyTruckster
Politicker
+9
Exec Director, Major Accounts
Health always comes first. That being said, without knowing what you’ve tried as far as “fixes” - and if anything has worked for you previously - saying that a work hiatus will suffice is a very surface level response. Is work the main cause? Would a change in employment benefit? Or change in position within the company? If your parents are a source of comfort, try talking to them before? Or friends or colleagues? If a job and self destruction go hand in hand get out of there. But if you have the ability to hash out some of this while retaining employment, explore any Avenue you can. Please take care of yourself.
Wanna.Be.Rick.Spielman
Opinionated
+3
Account Executive
I appreciate the thought.  The issues do not stem from my current place of employment (recently joined the company and it's great) but I think time off to do nothing but focus on the little things would do me tons of good.  
FamilyTruckster
Politicker
+9
Exec Director, Major Accounts
Then definitely do it! Good luck
Swarthymovie
Arsonist
+7
SDR
YES YES and YES, No job is Worth dying for, i've seen it, don't do it mate 
mitts2
Politicker
+8
Account Executive
100%. Especially in sales which can be an emotional roller coaster. Your mental health is your biggest asset and needs to be cared for just as much as your physical health. Good luck my friend. 
HappyGilmore
Politicker
+7
Account Executive
Yes absolutely, work will always be there, but its more important to focus on yourself and your mental health. Take the time you need.
CharmingSalesGal
Politicker
+8
Account Executive
I agree with the group that mental health is your health but as someone struggling recently, I can't get over the deals and income I'd lose taking off a couple of months.

My short-term solution was to book a weekend trip with some friends- hoping the reset helps quite a bit!
Wanna.Be.Rick.Spielman
Opinionated
+3
Account Executive
I have been struggling with adding up the income lost. like it would set me back from buying a home, making car a dent into my student loans, etc.... but It might be worth it. IDK.
CharmingSalesGal
Politicker
+8
Account Executive
It's totally a personal decision- make a pros and cons list!
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alecabral
Arsonist
+9
Director - Digital Sales Transformation
man, who voted no to this one...
Corpslovechild
Politicker
+5
Inbound Sales Manager
That’s the first thing I thought of when I saw the results.
CuriousFox
WR Officer
+13
Senior Account Executive
You may have short term leave options. Check with your benefits department.
Boutdamtime
Opinionated
+4
Client Executive
I don’t think anyone can give you good advice without knowing the specifics. I think it’s a bit short sighted to support quitting and going back to being financially dependent on your parents. No one here is a psychiatrist and can diagnose your level of depression but why can’t you get access to treatment and continue your path professionally? How would you plan to explain the gap in employment to future opportunities? Not playing devils advocate to be an actual devil just trying to bring some diversity of “advice” to the thread.
Wanna.Be.Rick.Spielman
Opinionated
+3
Account Executive
No I appreciate the honesty and explaining the gap is something I have thought about too....
GrindingSales
Opinionated
+5
Account Executive
Anyone that says no to this should be banned from this platform!
thalassophile888
Opinionated
+5
Enterprise Solutions Engineer
Yes, no job is worth your sanity! Come back with a vengeance when you’re ready but also make sure you can tell a good story about your time off.
Incognito
WR Officer
+11
Master of Disaster
I took at least six months after my last gig because I was beyond burnt out from YEARS of overwhelming myself. I’m talking 4 days off on average PER YEAR. Helped that I got severance and I had a lot of savings, but I needed the time. Never, ever feel guilty for prioritizing your mental health. If you’re in sales, we already know that you’re probably full of drive and ambition. There is nothing wrong with doing a reset 🖤
Wanna.Be.Rick.Spielman
Opinionated
+3
Account Executive
Thank you so much for the thought.  I am happy to hear others have done something similar and still see success. 
cw95
Politicker
+6
Pricing Executive
Mental health is key. Take what you need, your employer if they are decent people should let you. Hopefully, anyway. 
Mojo
Good Citizen
Director of Sales
I’ve been struggling mightily with this one as well. Grateful I’m not the only one.
Wanna.Be.Rick.Spielman
Opinionated
+3
Account Executive
Me too.... I think I am going to try saving as much as possible the next few months and then take time off early next year.  Hope you are able to do the same!
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