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Account Executive

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Lazy or burnt TF Out?

I've built my life around sales-money, but I don't want to put in sales-effort anymore. I'm so sick of the grind. I love it and don't know how long I'd last outside of a closing role, but gah-dayum I'm tired. I lost a huge deal this week and it was ONLY due to the customers internal team's failure to deliver, but we were in a sort of POC period so they could back out and they did. Anyway, I spent so much time on trying to save it (at leaderships direction) that now my pipeline is empty and I'm staring down no bonus for the year. I make a barely-ok salary, and we don't have regular commissions just one giant bonus payout annually. I was set to hit it until last week. Now I'm pissed, I'm poor, and I'm feeling like I've lost my fire. 

Idk how to combat burnout- but I feel it on all sides: Work, Parenting, Marriage- even my parents life happenings are stressing me out.

If I'm just lazy, I can deal with that- but I don't feel lazy. I feel like I put my heart and soul out for others constantly with little to no reward. 

Thanks for the space to vent- if anyone has tips on what the fuck this is that I'm going through and how to get out the other side, HMU! 
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CuriousFox
WR Officer
9
🦊
This is the unfortunate part of our job. We all go through these cycles. If you have PTO then please take it and reset. ❤🦊
UserNotFound
Politicker
7
Account Executive
I do. I’ve decided to take the week before Christmas off and my company is closed the following week so I will essentially get a little over two weeks off. Hope I last until then 🤞🏻(although Election Day in the Bible Belt might just do me in today…)
JustGonnaSendIt
Politicker
7
Burn Towns, Get Money
I feel for you. I've been thru a few seasons of life like this now.

At a certain point, even if you have a high threshold for stress management, you can be overwhelmed.

Take some space to make a mental (or even written) inventory of the irons you have in the fire. There will be some where you've been putting off a decision that you intuitively know you need to make, but have not committed to yet. Start addressing those.

This will give you a sense of progress, lighten your load, and may generate the momentum you need to break free.

Career-wise, it sounds like it's time for a change. The way your post read to me is that you have reached the end of your growth in this role. It's not giving you a fair balance of compensation, experience, and fulfillment. But perhaps this is not the best thing to start addressing first, hence the need for reflection.

When I'm feeling this way; backed into a corner, disappointed with myself and my situation, I remember that 'this too shall pass'

So, accept the way you feel. Then make a plan to change something, and get after it with that willpower you clearly have.
UserNotFound
Politicker
3
Account Executive
Are you moonlighting as a therapist?! This is perfect advice.
JustGonnaSendIt
Politicker
2
Burn Towns, Get Money
Hah, no, but I've had to walk a long journey myself and try to help others along the way.
SaasSlingin
Politicker
2
Sr AE
Poetic woah
detectivegibbles
Politicker
6
Sales Director
First off, thanks for giving yourself the space to recognize and acknowledge how you're feeling publicly.

That's a big first step and burying this shit deep down will only lead to not-so-good thoughts and in turn, be a detriment to you and yours.

Good chance there's a HIGH number of people in this community who have felt this so hopefully you know you're not alone.

I'm in this space with you currently and it's fucking hard.

One thing, especially as a new parent, that I am trying to keep top of mind is all that I've accomplished to date. Like @JustGonnaSendItmentioned, take inventory of everything (the good and bad).

Keep perspective that while shit is stressful as F&$% right now, you have the tools and resources to help yourself out of it. Just takes a positive mindset, a written plan, and execution.

We're here for you, feel free to DM me any time!
DungeonsNDemos
Big Shot
3
Rolling 20's all day
You should take a few days off if possible. Recharge and focus on family and hobbies. It sucks when you realize burnout has snuck up on you.
Change things up and take a step back, because if you continue while burnt out nothing will get better.
Sunbunny31
Politicker
3
Sr Sales Executive 🐰
Oh boy, do I sympathize. It is so hard to lose in this situation. No wonder you're feeling burned out. Pair that with everything else going a bit sideways, and it's really easy to feel that things are coming apart and be totally unmotivated. You've had a loss, both of this deal and your bonus for the year, and it's extremely disappointing. You are very understandably feeling unmotivated.

You've gotten some excellent advice, so I really don't need to add to it outside of to give support and commiserate.I'm glad you're able to take a significant amount of time off. I hope you get to plan something you can look forward to so that you have that as a positive touchstone. For what i's worth, add me to your support team here.
jefe
Arsonist
3
🍁
Them's the breaks, unfortunately.

It sucks that one deal could kibosh your whole bonus - sounds like a messed up structure.

I agree with @CuriousFox, you need some PTO
UserNotFound
Politicker
2
Account Executive
Agreed! I'm hopeful that I can claw my way back, but I'm soooo far behind I don't know if it's possible. Hopefully when the reports all come in I'll find out I've surprised myself and hit it anyway... /sigh
Diablo
Politicker
2
Sr. AE
Sorry to hear that! I have no special suggestions but a goo break might help you rejuvenate.
Pachacuti
Politicker
2
They call me Daddy, Sales Daddy
Sometime you need to take a day or five to get your head back in the game. Worry about the things you can affect and try to not worry about things you can’t.
ThatNewAE
Big Shot
2
Account Executive - Mid enterprise
We hit lazy patches here and there. Don't worry. Keep up the hope, take a break and come back.
SaaSsy
Politicker
2
AE
Sorry to hear - I know we all feel this to some extent. Take everyone's advice and recharge/reset then see how you feel. I will say that personally, I usually feel this way most of Nov./Dec. because other facets of life get very overwhelming during holiday times and work just naturally becomes a part of that. If you REALLY think that making a work change can help long term, look for AM roles where the peaks and valleys aren't as volatile. Depending on the company, you can still make good money in other support roles that aren't just net new logos. That's my future plan when the stress eventually breaks me :|
BourbonKing
Valued Contributor
2
VP of Sales
Not sure this is something a few days PTO is going to fix. Sounds to me like you need a big change. You say you still love sales and can't imagine doing anything else...but your current role/company is the source of the stress and burnout. Changing companies can do wonders to rekindle the passion and spark new life. Oh, and try to find a company with a better comp structure (cash flow)...a one-time annual bonus sounds horrible.
Maximas
Tycoon
1
Senior Sales Executive
I would recommend you to take a break and come back.
Arzola
Valued Contributor
1
Business administration
I'm sure it's not the only thing you love, try to go back to basics, bad things happen all the time, I also spend time on myself, I love my hobbies and I spend considerable time a week on them for my mental health. maybe finding something other than sales will help you unwind and refresh
activity
Politicker
1
VP, Business Development
Take all the PTO your company gives. Sales is by far the most demanding on someone's mental health. Shut it down, turn everything off, otherwise you go through these bouts. It's not just you, I know a ton of sales pros with the same feelings you do.
anothersalesgiy
Good Citizen
1
Enterprise Account Executive
I feel this brotha. Recommend Brandon Fluhartys content on LinkedIn for some help on balancing the burn out. If you’ve got the ability maybe get some help from Amanda Deibert too
Rallier
Politicker
0
SDR Manager and Consultant
when i feel like this I'll take a day off to sort of just relax a bit. Sounds like that might be good for you too
UserNotFound
Politicker
1
Account Executive
Hahahaha- okay so this made me legitimately laugh out loud. Right now if I take a day off it’s spent catching up on housework, running kids to appts, taking care of my disabled brothers affairs, etc.

I’m getting it from all sides rn. I appreciate the sentiment- but it’s not something a “day off” can cure or even alleviate for me.
gator5o
Fire Starter
0
Senior Account Executive
Recharge. Get your head straight and jump back in. Maybe wouldn’t hurt to explore some other options.
WhoDey
Opinionated
0
VP of Sales
You need a change of scenery. Time to look for a new job to reignite the passion.

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