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Online Dating - Colleague Match

Have you ever knowingly or unknowingly swipped right on a colleague at work in an online dating app, like tinder?


I know there’s been some previous posts about dating at work but this is specifically about encountering colleagues on online dating apps.


I’m a little paranoid about putting myself in any position of vulnerability that could effect me professionally but I have got myself into a scenario where I did match with a colleague at work but didn’t realize she worked there until after the fact. I unmatched when I found out and she approached me at a Christmas party months later, where I think she was going to bring up the fact that we matched but I was a little tipsy so I kind of botched the whole exchange. I regret how that played out because she seemed cool but then again, I feel like I’m being responsible by separating work from play to a certain degree.


Just curious how other people operate in this regard?



You’re single and see a colleague in an online dating app that you are attracted to…
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TheSolicitorGeneral
Politicker
+5
Small Market AE
"Don't dip your pen in the company ink"
Stardust
WR Officer
+9
President
amen. 
BigCheese
Arsonist
+8
Agency Recruiter
I'm indifferent about naturally occurring, consensual office romances, as long as they can remain professional, but I personally would not swipe right in any circumstance. Especially on the off-chance that they pay for the premium service and are able to see that I swiped right and then have it not be mutual. 

I had a coworker 'super-like' me on Tinder, WHILE AT WORK (meaning it shows up that they liked you even if you don't pay, and gives you a notification) and that was the most awkward week of work - she kept looking over at me knowing that I should've seen it, and I had to play dumb for a week.
funcoupons
WR Officer
+11
Kahluapons
Your second paragraph is the cringiest shit I've heard in a long time. 
BigCheese
Arsonist
+8
Agency Recruiter
I'll raise you.

The cringiest part is that I ended up getting with her after a wild HH. Immediate regret and anxiety the next morning.
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funcoupons
WR Officer
+11
Kahluapons
I selected the wrong answer - I'd swipe left. Purely because I'm against dating people I work with. If I worked at a big company and that person worked in a different department and seemed really promising as a potential boyfriend, I'd consider it...but would still prefer to keep work and romance separate. 

When things are going well it's fine, but all it takes is one scorned person to lose their marbles and start creating drama/running your name through the dirt to anyone who will listen in the office lunch room. It will get back to your department eventually. Then all the sudden you're not just dealing with a breakup, but also BS going on at work. 

If you do decide to date a colleague, tread carefully.
Smithy
Politicker
+4
Director of Sales
I met my fiancée at work and while it’s the fairytale ending, it absolutely came with the office politics, rumours and BS that you mention; even though we never split up and did it to each other. 

people will always have their opinions and people love drama so they will start it just to watch it all unfold. 
poweredbycaffeine
Politicker
+7
Bean Juice Drinker | Sales Savant
I know more couples who met at work than I do otherwise. If you're into them and they're into you, and they happen to be in the same building as you (and you can keep it professional), then who cares?
poweredbycaffeine
Politicker
+7
Bean Juice Drinker | Sales Savant
Seems like you've got a kindred spirit:  https://bravado.co/war-room/posts/dating-at-work
CuriousFox
WR Officer
+11
Needer of Life Alert
Safety first Cadence. ❤
DaveGreen
Arsonist
+8
Head of Sales
I just moved countries with a once intern (we met a few years ago 😉) so yeah, go for it! You never know what will come out of it
GDO
Politicker
+6
BDM
Don’t shit where you eat. But if you really want to. Do it in person, you’re in sales for god sakes!

close that deal 🤞
paddy
Arsonist
+9
Account Executive
I mean if you both matched the intent is there on both ends and that kind of clears the awkwardness...
Meetingsetter
Politicker
+5
SDR
I would probably play it safe myself just because of the well known messes dating/hooking up with coworkers can bring. Also wanted to come on here to ask if you had any intention of making vol.2 of your prospecting strategy? Vol 1 was super helpful been waiting for vol.2
No_ty
Catalyst
+5
Sales Dir.
run if not matching the profile pic
Meetingsetter
Politicker
+5
SDR
Hey sorry man without DM’s idk how else to reach out directly lmao. But what happened to your prospecting post? ): was really referring back to it a lot lol. That initial first email outreach you were using has been getting me some sweet results 
CadenceCombat
Tycoon
+13
Account Executive
@Meetingsetter  Glad to hear it.

To be honest, I feel like the response it got at large was pretty abismal compared to the value that I feel the post delivers so I took it down because it’s giving too much of myself for free. 

Keep it in your back pocket ✌️
Meetingsetter
Politicker
+5
SDR
Ugh the best posts always go under-appreciated. I totally get it man. Makes me wish I took screenshots lol. What would a man have to do to get some of that info back one time for the one time hahah
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SalesPharaoh
Politicker
+8
AM BDR
Is she in the same department or team? I think if she isn't then you are really good to go. If it's the same team I get your concerns.
Beefany28
Politicker
+6
Business Development Representative
Just a bad thing imo in general and no matter what in the end, you don't wanna ever work with someone you date, are married to, and or pork with. LOL anything that goes south...like one of you gotta get a new job lol!
Kinonez
Arsonist
+8
Team Lead
I have seen company girls on tinder and gone nope nope nope. Even been asked for one of them why I didn’t “swipe right” and just said the truth, didn’t think it was appropriate. 
Beasthouse
Opinionated
+5
Corporate trainer
yall never learned not to piss in your own pond? to put sex over paycheck will never end well
SDMHGWarrior
Tycoon
+13
CEO
Don't date coworkers...it never works out
CaneWolf
Politicker
+12
Call me what you want, just sign the damn contract
Not a dating app guy but unless you're in an area with five people, don't do it. Just isn't worth it.
itsbusinesstime
Catalyst
+4
Business Development Manager
Send it
AnchorPoint
Politicker
+8
Business Coach
Don't dip your pen in the company's ink.
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