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Sexual Harassment: To tell or not to tell?

I know I usually am on here to laugh and joke around, but I have a serious question today.


My boss sexually harassed a co-worker at an out-of-state work conference. The female co-worker confided in me. She wouldn't give me the details, but she called me crying that night and was crying at the next day's conference. I told her to go to HR and report him when she called me that night. She even flew home early. Again, I reiterated that she should go to HR. She said that she didn't want to and wanted to let it drop. Again, I said, you seem pretty upset by what happened, and I think you should go to HR.


The question is, do I report him? The female colleague doesn't work for either of us. I want to respect her wishes and not report him. My concerns are, one, I don't want to work with a sex pest, two, I don't want this to happen to anyone else, and three, I don't want to seem complicit in this. The female has asked me not to say anything. Our company doesn't have any policies on reporting sexual harassment. I also don't want to seem self-serving because I am probably next in line for his job.


What would you do?


***UPDATE***  The victim reported him on her own after some encouragement from her boss and the CSO. 

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1nbatopshotfan
Politicker
+6
Senior Director, Enterprise Technology
100% report him. There’s a few times in your career when doing the right thing outweighs everything else. This isn’t a gray area. Make the call, make the report and be supportive of your colleague. 
UrAssIsSaaS
Politicker
+8
SaaS Eater
I think you have to report him. Keep the victim anonymous at all costs but people like that deserve a special place in hell.
poweredbycaffeine
WR Lieutenant
+10
Bean Juice Drinker | Sales Savant
100000000% yes. Complete details or not, you can blow that whistle and let this fucko deal with the consequences. Even when you have a tip that amounts to nothing it's worth it to say something rather than let that person suffer.
jefe
Politicker
+8
Sales Director
Maybe even add a few zeroes.
ragnarlothbrok
Politicker
+7
Key account manager
Gotta do the right thing mate👍🏻
Diablo
Politicker
+7
AE
I think I would report because I care for my other colleagues' safety.
CuriousFox
WR Officer
+13
Senior Account Executive
You know what to do. No question. 
mitts2
Politicker
+8
Account Executive
Didn't have to read the body of this post. Based on the title alone, report him. No brainer.
Mobi85
Politicker
+5
Regional Sales Manager
I think you need to report them, your colleague may not like you but this is the right thing to do.  There is no need for that in the workplace or any place whatsoever. 
WomenWantMeFishFearMe
Politicker
+4
SDR LXIX
I had a similar situation. I got her to confide in a couple coworkers, and when all 5 of us told her to come forward she did. Dude got fired, we were all happy
SuperSaaSd
Contributor
+2
SDR
+1 for reporting, it's the right thing to do.
Woody
Politicker
+5
Business Development Executive
Yeah nah, fuck that guy. Run him in. Always keep an "I got fired for doing the right thing fund" though.   Some things are more important than the consequences to ourselves. 
GrizzleMcThornBody
Arsonist
+12
EVP - RevOps
Report him.

Do not let this slide. I fucking hate managers who do this. He deserves all the ruin coming his way.
Justatitle
Politicker
+11
Mid Market AE
Report for 2 reasons:

1.) the victim is probably to scared of what will happen if she says something

2.) who else will he do this too/has he done it too?
jefe
Politicker
+8
Sales Director
As pretty much everyone is saying, REPORT HIS ASS.

It sounds pretty serious, so this likely isn't his first time doing something like this, and DEFINITELY won't be his last.
hancock
Good Citizen
Director Strategic Accounts
definitely report. it may not go anywhere at first, HR is there to protect the company after all, but it could be important when compiled with other reports on the guy. 
sugardaddy
Politicker
+10
Head Of Sales
It’s not a question. Report that fucker!
DataSlangah
Politicker
+7
SAE
Thank you for all the encouragement on this rough topic. I have been contacted by our legal team and been asked to come on and give a formal statement on anything I might have seen or been told by either party. I am complying fully and hope this guy is out for my colleagues safety.
privateryan
Politicker
+8
Director of Sales
Repot him?! Call the cops! 
dwightyouignorantsale
Politicker
+7
Manager, Sales
what a POS… report him!!!
Sunbunny31
Politicker
+5
Sales Executive
Count me in for report him. There’s no place whatsoever for that behavior in the workplace. There will be other victims, count on it.
Beans
Politicker
+9
Account Executive
Echoing statements but you gotta tell.
Kinonez
Celebrated Contributor
+9
WR Enthusiast
Tell always tell! If not, this can happen to you or someone else again. This is not acceptable and should never happen to anyone! If you need to talk to someone I’m always here! 
ju
justatopproducer
Politicker
+4
National Consultant
Things like this don’t drop. Go to HR before they try and figure out how to get rid of her first. Also, just kkow HR is “upper management” their main priroity is to still do whats best for the company. Depends on the company but thwir job is to know the ins and outs of employment laws. If it were me id say you can either fire the person now, or ill talk to my attorney or handle it myself. These things get my blood boiling.
TheGreenSide
Opinionated
+3
Enterprise AE
Fuck that guy. Report him and leave the victim anonymous. I don’t know how serious this incident was but I’ve seen HR need a pattern in order to take action. If you don’t and it happens again, there is no record of anything.
Nj
Njanack
Good Citizen
SDR
tell 
wh
whathaveyousoldtomorrow
Opinionated
+4
sales
Glad she reported him. At some companies, it is in the policy if a leader knows of something like this, its their duty to report it--even just a hearsay. 
sa
salesgal0718
BDR Manager
please report him! I've been in that girl's shoes and it is not fun. 
Flippinghubs
Opinionated
+7
Account Executive
1000% youve got to report this 
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