Struggling to keep it together.. Need advice

I has been almost a year now since I started my first sales role (SDR). In this year, I haven't taken a day off and worked on public holidays as well because I was struggling and behind so I wanted to show that I still try my best.


A month ago I have been placed on PIP, did everything they told me to do and still I missed quota this month.


My mental health is fucking wrecked. I do not get to relax, I feel at the edge always.


I am not sure if I can find a better job or any job because of all this mass layoffs. I am not sure where to look or should I even start looking. My visa is totally dependent on my work.


I moved my whole life here only a year ago, my fiancee started to study and work, I got a dog.

It is extremely hard to find a rental in Amsterdam now and I am not even sure if I will have a job so not sure if I should renew my rental contract


Now; all messed up. I do not want to go back to my home country because it would be the end of me(Turkey, it is a total shit hole).


I am fed up and I can not focus on anything clearly because there are so many things to consider.


What should I do? I am at the brink of crying even writing this tbh

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Notmyrealname
Politicker
12
AE
My first bit of advice might sound odd but trust me, it helps. Stop worrying so much about it. Worrying doesn't solve problems, it just clouds your mind with negative thoughts. If you can just say fuck it, que sera, sera, and accept that you tried your best but not everything is in your control, you'll be able to relax a bit and might even see better results. Also, sorry, but you can assume your numbers up with your current employer. Pips are just an excuse for letting someone go. Their not meant to incite improvement.

My second bit of advice is focus on what you can control. Reflect on the last year. Why hasn't it worked out? What can you change about it? What options do you have moving forward? Is another SDR job really the best option? Is staying in Amsterdam really the best option? And find a path forward that doesn't put you back in this situation again.
SaaSsy
Politicker
5
AE
Love this - probably something every salesperson has had to learn at some point. You can only control how you act, talk and treat others. Sometimes a company switch can help -maybe find a better environment or a product you're more passionate about.
chubbybunny
Executive
4
Sales Development Representative
Really appreciate it, I think I need to calm down, relax and then get my head in the game to think back as you said. I need to understand what has gotten me here and what comes next.
NoSuperhero
Politicker
3
BDR LEAD
I second this, I was in a similar place a couple of months back, and stopping worrying about all the mess does really help. I also tried to just focus on what I can control and let it be.
Haliax
Good Citizen
0
SDR (Sales Development Rep)
Itโ€™s actually proven that your brain operates at 60% of its capacity when youโ€™re stressed.
TennisandSales
Politicker
9
Head Of Sales
damn dude this is the real fucking deal. Here is my advice.

1. you need to take a break. i understand the thought of "i need to show them im committed" but working on holidays and not taking days off is not helping you right now. its hurting your mental health WAY MORE than its helping your production.

2. There are always other jobs. Especially for SDRs. DO NOT let your self believe that this is the only place you can work. if you need to find a new job.

3. you need to find something to go do that you enjoy to get your mind off of work. no one, can think about work all the time especially with all the pressure you are putting on your self.

you are totally able to do this.

you can find another job IF you need too

your worth is not found in how well you do at a job.
mdhcanada
Executive
6
Enterprise Business Development Director
I completely agree. No job is worth your mental health.

When you donโ€™t take a break, your production can be impacted. Taking some time off often helps people to take a breath and gain a new perspective.

Also, we all know sales can be stressful- especially when missing quota. The thing is, your prospects can sense the desperation and will feel like they are just being sold to. This puts up their defences and creates resistance whether they need your product or not. You need to be in it for them not for your quota. I know. Itโ€™s hard but sometimes you just have to take the emotion out of it and then things start happening.

How are the other SDRs doing with their quotas? Talk to the people who are meeting quota and find out what they are doing differently and see if you can apply some of what they are doing. If a lot are struggling, maybe itโ€™s a bigger issue.
TennisandSales
Politicker
2
Head Of Sales
yes good stuff here. If you are in a bad state mentally the prospects can sense that. And it does not help your conversations or deals. it can make you desperate.

good call on connecting with others that are doing well.
alienjesus
Good Citizen
2
Enterprise Sales Manager
Itโ€™s called quota breath, and itโ€™s real.
TennisandSales
Politicker
1
Head Of Sales
it stinks for sure! ๐Ÿ˜‚
NoSuperhero
Politicker
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BDR LEAD
This:
"your worth is not found in how well you do at a job
"

Do remember that the lowest point of whatever is going on in your life it DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE.
TennisandSales
Politicker
2
Head Of Sales
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CuriousFox
WR Officer
4
๐ŸฆŠ
What is actually something you can control? Start there. Make a plan. Cut out the noise. Small steps. โค๐ŸฆŠ
Sunbunny31
Politicker
3
Sr Sales Executive ๐Ÿฐ
Others have given some great advice. I want to provide some support and reinforce that one job does not define you. If you haven't started looking for a new position, now is a good time, as it sounds as though maybe this wasn't right for you anyway. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Please find time to take care of yourself and find enjoyment in life - it's critical to your health.
chubbybunny
Executive
3
Sales Development Representative
I really want to thank each one of you for the support.

It is quite sad to say maybe but never had in my life who has been there for me. Having this community and being able to ask people with experience; it is a game changer.

I took some time off and planned something fun for the weekend to relax and calm down so that I can think clearly.

But the most helpful thing was knowing that there are people out there who are struggling or did struggle and it got better for them at the end of the day.

It means a lot and whoever is lucky enough to discover this community and get to interact with you guys are lucky.

Thank you so much and really appreciate it.

(I also started therapy so it will keep me in line as well)

Hoping to come back with some amazing news!
antiASKHOLE
Tycoon
2
Bravado's Resident Asshole
Take a break. Go on an extended weekend, binge whatever your vice is and get it out of your system. You are a sales savage and we need you on your A-game. Life gets better man.
SaaSGuy313
Opinionated
2
SDR
Iโ€™m really sorry to hear this is happening to you bud. Please know that youโ€™re not alone (I actually just got placed on a activity monitoring plan literally yesterday). Focus on the things you can control which is activity, but at this rate, start getting yourself out there, redo the resume, and donโ€™t box yourself in, as an SDR , you can most certainly jump into other roles that arenโ€™t as stressful. But most importantly, take some time to take a deep breath and BREATHE. Leave work at work, itโ€™s very frustrating to put in the work, do the things youโ€™re told to do and still not see results. You arenโ€™t alone, and always feel free to DM if you need any tips or help. Weโ€™re all here for you and youโ€™re going to get out of this better than youโ€™ve ever imagined ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฝ
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
2
Officer of โ™ฅ๏ธ
Keep ur head up - take a day off - double your dials each day - revise ur technique - shadow top performers - reach out to companies that are hiring - check out my post on landing a job - https://bravado.co/war-room/posts/how-to-go-from-jobless-to-offer-in-4-days-update-on-job-hunt-1-offer-2-next-stage-3-in-1st-stage-lfg

Whats meant for you will find you - what's not will escape you.

Sometimes it's a blessing in disguise. Maybe you will do 2x better in a new job, a new location, or a different job is meant for you.

Do some soul searching. is sales for you? Do you have any other hobbies, talents, or aspirations you can draw from? Can you work as a server full time and do that instead?
Sunbunny31
Politicker
2
Sr Sales Executive ๐Ÿฐ
Hey, wanted to come back in here and see how things are going.
chubbybunny
Executive
1
Sales Development Representative
Much better!

As everyone suggested; I planned something for the weekend and took some time off to rewind.

I started therapy and started to journal.

I wrote down what I can control, and went through my salesforce and everything to better understand what put me in this position and what I can do to get out of it.

Got someone with 30 years of sales experience and paid him to do my resume and explain to me the reasons behind his changes.

And I am actively trying not to worry and just do the best I can.

Really appreciate you checking it. Thank you so much
dncsv
OG Sales Savage
0
SD manager
Hey @chubbybunny you got some solid advice from the group here. Checking in to see how the week has been. How are you doing?
salezkween
Opinionated
0
Enterprise Account Executive
If they arenโ€™t giving you the coaching and support to be successful, find a new company.

Not taking time out is not doing your performance any favors. Itโ€™s like muscles, you have to have rest days or youโ€™ll strain yourself.
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