I'm in quite a pickle. I'm debating on quitting the current job, or sticking it out (but with poor performance).
*edit, adding: I was PIP'd last month and have til next month to get my numbers up, which is definitely not happening now.
My elderly dad is on home hospice, and I'm the primary caregiver. I have no other family backup, and dad has rejected staying in a facility for the final days of his life. He's now staying with me. It was difficult, but manageable at first. I was able to still work from home, take calls, close deals. But his recent condition is worsening and now demands more around the clock care.
As for work, my employer is a small, scrappy startup. There's no eligibility for FMLA, and they are very frugal with PTO. I'm about to max out on PTO this week. My performance has been down in the dumps due to all of this. My calls aren't as effective, my pipeline management has gotten away from me and I'm constantly playing catch up as opposed to being the top performer I usually am.
The new employer is aware of my situation, but hasn't given me any good options. I'm basically faced with two options: Stick it out until the very last moments of his life(with very poor sales performance), and it's hard to tell whether my dad will be around a few days, or a few months. Or put in my two weeks and just ride out my savings until this responsibility subsides. I calculated I have about 6 months of runway, maybe more if I'm extremely frugal. Doc's prognosis say my dad could have several weeks before he passes but that's what the docs also said 3 months ago.
Each day, I'm leaning more towards quitting as I'm so ingulfed in his care and the sleepless nights it takes to tend to him. But I'm fearful of the job market in our industry. I'd hate for me to run through all my savings, and not have a job lined up when I can get back to normal performance.
Anyone else go through something like this? Or any general thoughts/advice?
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