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Toxic work culture?

How do you cope / navigate / not get caught up in the drama?


I am fresh outta college in my first SDR role and I am terrified of how backstabbing my company's culture is...

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WR Officer
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up in Fiji, under paddy
Mind your own business. Be friendly with everyone but don't trust no hoes (hoes applies to men as well.)
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
easier said than done, but so worth it!
cw95
Politicker
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Pricing Executive
Exactly, 'Easier said than done' is the key. Gotta experience it to see what you want. You'll be okay mate.Β 
cw95
Politicker
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Pricing Executive
I've been on a course before where we 'had to practice cold calling' and one girl said after a call 'I'd push my colleagues under a bus just to get a meeting'. Jesssssus.
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
the toxicity is ~shocking~ to say the very least. glad i am not the only one who has experienced this, but c'mon there's gotta be leaders out there that don't tolerate this amongst their teams...right?!Β 
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OpalTiddyChurger
Arsonist
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Funbags Enthusiast
Keep your head down, focus on your work and don't participate in gossip.Β 
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
do you have any recommendations on how to actively not engage? for example, if a coworker comes up to you and vents to you about someone on their team, do you have any good responses to diffuse the convo?
OpalTiddyChurger
Arsonist
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Funbags Enthusiast
I would make it clear to them you don't want to be a part of that conversation. "hey, I don't mind if you want to vent but I'd rather not be a part of any gossip"

If they keep coming back to you, just be stern about it. Unfortunately people are assholes and might ostracize you but this where focusing on your work comes into play. Just kick ass, hit your numbers and exceed managements expectations and whatever your peers think of you won't mean a thing when you're consistently showing results.Β 
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paddy
WR Officer
+10
Account Executive
You could try a Venezuelan style coup with other SDR's in the office.
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
oooh, please say more!!
Rallier
Politicker
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Account Executive
What do you mean backstabbing? Can you expand on this?
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
like, throwing coworkers under the bus every chance they get, very two-faced when it comes to being "work besties" but then turning and saying "I hope she ends up getting fired soon"
cw95
Politicker
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Pricing Executive
If that happens, move on.Β 
Nairobi
Politicker
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BDR
My first advice would be to leave. I am fresh out of college too and was in a toxic company, I left after 2 months. Honestly would have left after a month but I was waiting for another opportunity to come along. So many companies are looking for SDR/BDR right now that they don't care if you leave after a few months.Β 

If you don't want to leave. DO NOT AND DO NOT engage in the drama. At my previous company, this girl that I thought was "my friend" came to me and I engaged in her drama, next thing you know, homegirl throws me under the boss during a team meeting... I owned up to what I said because that's just how I am and I didn't give a fuck anymore but you know, I would have preferred to be lowkey.
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
ah, thank you for this! i called a few friends this morning and they reminded me, "you are not the exception - if they are talking shit about others, they are talking shit about you"...so now I'm making extra sure to not give anyone ammo against me lol. i think i am going to begin updating my resumΓ©...Β 

stoked you have been able to leave and start somewhere else!
Nairobi
Politicker
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BDR
Yeah that’s good that you are being cautious, cause maaan you cannot trust anyone in those environments. The nicest people are the most dangerous!

Thanks, you can do it too!
Telehealth_2the_Moon
Notable Contributor
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Director of Business Development
Keep focus on your goals and what you control. Don't engage in the conversations that seem negative. Eventually if you don't seem interested in their drama people stop bringing it to you.
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
you and Opal ^ are def on the same track. do you have any recommendations on how to verbally show you are not interested in the drama?
OMG_It_has_a_watermark
Good Citizen
Head of Sales
Leave. If there is one piece of advice I can give you, Leave.
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
My next thread is going to be "what to ask during interview process to gauge company culture" LOL...
OMG_It_has_a_watermark
Good Citizen
Head of Sales
^^^ Yes.Β 
I once asked the person interviewing me why their glassdoor sucked. She gave me a "most of those are from different teams...people just use that to complain... " I found out over the next 3 years of my life why their glassdoor sucked.Β 
NoSuperhero
Politicker
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BDR
GTFO, don't stay and leeeeeave!!!
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
this seems to be the general consensus...is this a common thing in tech sales?? *nervous*
NoSuperhero
Politicker
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BDR
In my experience, toxic environments are there because of a lack of leadership. And if you see that early, it's best to strategically put yourself halfway out the door.Β 
BCD
Politicker
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BDR
Leave, but while you look for another job, let your co workers be just your co workers, not your friends. Some SDR/BDR orgs are like high school on steroids.
yuh
Opinionated
+3
Sales Development Representative
oh so true. realizing how much older these coworkers are and wondering what happened for them to be this way lol
Incognito
WR Officer
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Master of Disaster
Ugh I totally feel you on this.Β 

Get your work done. When someone starts up....pretend to get a phone call, make an excuse to leave the room....

never, ever speak negatively about anyone. you can always find something to compliment, like "they sure do put in a lot of effort!", "I love their sense of style", "always punctual" - whatever. Just cut off negative comments before they start.Β 

And dont ever, ever assume anyone is your friend. save your friendships for after work hours.Β 
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
ooh the pretending to get a phone call trick is keyyy. thank you!
RampagingDog
Politicker
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Recruitment Consultant
Fuck the bullshit.Β  Dial the phone. Get that bread and ignore everyone else.Β  When things are getting dicy with coworkers I'll look a mf straight in the eye and say, "I'm here to make money, not friends" and get back to work. Ain't nobody got time for the drama.Β Β 

yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
I laughed so hard at this. gonna try it Monday.
RampagingDog
Politicker
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Recruitment Consultant
How'd that go for you?

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NorthernSalesGuru
Politicker
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Account Executive
Get out.Β 

nothing good comes at companies with that sort of culture.
yuh
Opinionated
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Sales Development Representative
you're not wrong
GrindingSales
Opinionated
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Account Executive
Toxic work culture will change you and you might not even know it.Β  I agree with what Opal said but sometimes you can be a target if you aren't participating.Β  If you find that to be the case, listen to everyone, don't contribute to the conversation and simply validate what they are telling you in a general way.Β  That usually gets them off your back.Β Β 
MontBlanc
Notable Contributor
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Senior Account Executive
Understand whether you have the political skills to navigate that environment to meet your goals. If you don't and can't figure it out you'll never get ahead there and should leave.
Aaronlovessales
Opinionated
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Financial advisor
Isn’t all work toxis
verbalzzzzzz
Politicker
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Inside Sales
Leave
yuh
Opinionated
+3
Sales Development Representative
the concern I have with this is that I am relatively new to my role/company (4ish months) and I am afraid other companies will see me leaving as a reflection of my ethics rather than the company's ethics....thoughts?
verbalzzzzzz
Politicker
+4
Inside Sales
Oh man. That is rough. I actually had this same situation happen to myself. I left after 8 months. I'd recommend staying as long as you can but one thing to do is have your LinkedIn set to "open to work" so recruiters reach out to you. Once they reach out to you it is a lot easier to say in the interview process that you are just keeping your options open. Good luck my friend. I feel for you
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