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***UPDATE*** RE: Sexual Harassment - To Tell or not to Tell

***UPDATE*** He was terminated, which is not something to joke about. He admitted fault and is seeking treatment for sexual addiction. The female co-worker is on a paid leave of absence to seek mental health treatment paid for by the company.


Thanks for all the thoughtful advice. It didn't go on deaf ears.


I know I usually am on here to laugh and joke around, but I have a serious question today.


My boss sexually harassed a co-worker at an out-of-state work conference. The female co-worker confided in me. She wouldn't give me the details, but she called me crying that night and was crying at the next day's conference. I told her to go to HR and report him when she called me that night. She even flew home early. Again, I reiterated that she should go to HR. She said that she didn't want to and wanted to let it drop. Again, I said, you seem pretty upset by what happened, and I think you should go to HR.


The question is, do I report him? The female colleague doesn't work for either of us. I want to respect her wishes and not report him. My concerns are, one, I don't want to work with a sex pest, two, I don't want this to happen to anyone else, and three, I don't want to seem complicit in this. The female has asked me not to say anything. Our company doesn't have any policies on reporting sexual harassment. I also don't want to seem self-serving because I am probably next in line for his job.


What would you do?


***UPDATE***Β The victim reported him on her own after some encouragement from her boss and the CSO.Β 

πŸ™ Mental Wellness
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GrizzleMcThornBody
Arsonist
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EVP - RevOps
Glad that worked out. I hope she recovers and I hope his help provides safeguards so he does not do this again. I also hope she still reports him and he suffers the consequences of his actions in a legal sense as well.
CuriousFox
WR Officer
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Senior Account Executive
And hopefully HR will revamp their policies too.
FamilyTruckster
Politicker
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Exec Director, Major Accounts
Wow. Heavy. Glad to hear it’s resolved.Β 
Sunbunny31
Politicker
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Sales Executive
Thank you for the update!Β  I'm also glad that others encouraged her to report AND that she was taken seriously.Β  Β 
jefe
Politicker
+8
Sales Director
Unfortunately things often don't work this way, but definitely glad it did..

Definitely appreciate the update as well.
mitts2
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Account Executive
Best possible outcome. Thanks for the update.
Diablo
Politicker
+7
AE
This is supernews.. Good this wasn't tolerated..Β 
1nbatopshotfan
Politicker
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Senior Director, Enterprise Technology
Glad this worked out.Β 
ChumpChange
Opinionated
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Channel Manager
Good for you to stand up for those who are being subjected to harassment.Β  You did the right thing.Β Β 
Mobi85
Politicker
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Regional Sales Manager
That was the right outcome and I hope she takes as much time as she needs.Β 
UserNotFound
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Mid Market Manager
Wow, it's so rare to hear about a company who does the right thing- kudos to them! I'm glad this person is seeking treatment, and can't victimize anyone else at your company.Β Β 
sugardaddy
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Head Of Sales
Glad to hear that she reported him. Such a scum!Β 
FromaBlankPerspective
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District Manager
Thank you for the update on this one. Glad to hear the outcome.Β 
cw95
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Sales Development Lead
Well done you man. Well done you.
MSPSales
Notorious Answer
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Account Executive
I wonder how many of these incidents go untold..Β 
WomenWantMeFishFearMe
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SDR LXIX
Good. Glad he’s gone.
girheakinna
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da best SDR
Thank you for being an ally to her
Bo
Boudreaux
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Regional Sales Executive
Congrats on the big win!
DataSlangah
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SAE
IMO there are no winners here.Β  This is just a shitty situation.Β  He will wear this Albatross around his neck for the rest of his life.Β  It will do little to repair the joy he took from the female.Β Β 
Bo
Boudreaux
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Regional Sales Executive
That didn't sound right on my end, I just meant to congratulate you on doing the right thing and help the issue be addressed. It had to be brutal for your co-worker.
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Corpslovechild
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Inbound Sales Manager
Thank god.Β 
Flippinghubs
Opinionated
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Account Executive
Glad that this worked out and is resolved!
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