One of my colleagues told me that I don't let the other person finish the question and just jump into answering it. And yes I do that because halfway through I understand the question and just dive in. I have been practicing patience since in other places as well. Which allows me to have patience here. Now I really listen to people and only respond once they're done. I also take my time with responding. I don't jump in a fast pace ramble but talk slowly and patiently thinking before saying
Exact same for me! So tough. Another tool to help manage this is to sit on your hands when you want to speak. It actually works. My executive coach helped me focus on impulsivity and its professional impacts. This was one weird but useful takeaway!!
I’m a woman so maybe I can get away with that temporary body language. I’ve literally done this recently in meetings while I sit with my legs crossed. It’s quick and discreet, not meant to be like that the whole time. I just look like I’m leaning in. It’s just a quick physical way (like snapping a rubber band) to remind me to STFU.
That said, this is mostly used in phone and zoom calls currently since it was applied during Covid.
Either way... good, weird trick. It has helped me!
Yeah I was told a similar thing after an interview for a job that I did not get in the end. When talking to a friend about it - they said that the best advice their mother gave them was that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listen twice as much as you speak.
I was told that I do not give space for personal creativity in solving problems. Right away I started to catch myself hearing someone propose a solution to a problem and I'd start cutting them off because it was not the most simple way to attack it, which probably made them feel devalued and discouraged from sharing their opinions. Since then I have made sure to hear people out completely, pressure test their ideas, and even adopt some of the ones that I personally wouldn't choose.
One of my sales managers said, "Your presentation skills need work. I get the sense that the reps don't trust you like they used to when you were on the same level with them."
This made me very conscious of how I was presented myself when doing trainings for the sales team. I had previously done really well with an empathetic sales approach when speaking with prospects because it was all about THEM talking and not me. I was able to listen and gauge my questions to reveal pain and talk about value. Not only this, but I would record ever call that I had and listen back to it (within reason --- generally those that were over a few minutes to 30 minutes). This helped me be aware of my tone and make sure that I had the correct information instead of relying on in situation notes that I had taken.
What was most difficult about hearing this feedback was the fact that my own internal sales colleagues found a lack of trust or usefulness in what I was presenting to them (i.e. of no value). This is never good to hear. I think the other difficult part was that my sales manager didn't really offer any help.
I used the same tactics that I did when I was speaking to prospects to help me get better: deliberate practice through recording my presentations and running them by one or two trusted reps beforehand. Additionally, I found that TED talks were really helpful in getting to the point and providing true value.
Resources that helped and for anyone interested in leveling up their speaking/presentation game:
At that point, I stopped trying to fit a mold, and follow advice. I landed and am successful in my role for being me. No longer was I bound to the "process". I still follow it, just with less hard triggers.
My personality shines when I have no reigns, give me a budget and a target and I'll deliver. Tell me key highlights from what is new, and I can sell it.
The awkward came from trying to fit my personality into another model. It's one of those square peg round hole situations.
One of my colleagues told me that I don't let the other person finish the question and just jump into answering it. And yes I do that because halfway through I understand the question and just dive in.