bdiggidy

Account Executive Mid-Market

Valued Contributor

Pat leave- now or later?

my wife is due early next year- company offers 12 weeks pat leave. for other dads out there, my wife will take a full year Mat leave with the baby, and her and I have been going back and forth on the idea of when I should take my pat leave.

should I take my pat leave immediately? my knee-jerk reaction was I want to take time off immediately to help my wife and first time momma and of course spend time with my son/daughter. but some other new parents have told us if I have the choice wait a few months. the first few months I can help a lot around the house but I work from home anyway so those things can get done. the baby will be with mom a lot for feeding and if I can wait a few months even until mid year and take 3 months then I could be more of a help for mom. I want to make sure I help my wife as much as possible but also maximize the time I get to spend with my kid.

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antiASKHOLE

Tycoon

10

Bravado's Resident Asshole

Immediately, she will appreciate it and you will thank me later.

poweredbycaffeine

WR Lieutenant

4

☕️

This. Second option would be to split it up if they let you. 8 weeks from birthdate onwards and then the second 4 in the summer when you can go on warm walks and to the beach, etc.

braintank

Politicker

1

Enterprise Account Executive

I like this idea.

Sunbunny31

Politicker

9

Sr Sales Executive 🐰

As a mom, I can tell you the first weeks are the hardest. It’s new, you’re recovering AND you’re responsible for a brand new little being that doesn’t come with instructions. You’re sleep deprived, trying to figure out nursing, and maybe sneak a shower in so you feel human. You may not be able to drive if you’ve had surgery. You might want to cook and take care of things around the house, but possibly that little noise maker is eating 12 hours/day and you just can’t.

Take the leave from the jump. Be there for your family. It’s a magical, but exhausting, time, particularly for your wife. She’ll be grateful for the ability to finally take a deep breath again, but everything else is recovering.

Congratulations!

Pachacuti

Politicker

1

They call me Daddy, Sales Daddy

Good advice.

oldcloser

Arsonist

6

💀

Be in the hospital for the delivery and every day after that until someone drags you back to work by your nostrils. You don’t want to miss that magic.

bdiggidy

Opinionated

4

Account Executive Mid-Market

Maybe I should have been clear that I’d definitely be in the hospital and take a week from the day it’s born off. That’s not a question lol

Diablo

Politicker

1

Sr. AE

This is without saying lol. Congrats in advance!

3

Retired Sales Professional

Whether you take 12 weeks at the beginning or at the middle of the year, it is ultimately up to you. There is one thing I have learned with raising children (my wife and I are still raising our 5 girls all who were adopted and, ranging from 3 month to five year old when we first adopted) is whether you have the time or not, you find the time to be with them while they are a growing up because you can't get that time back.

Every second, minute, hour you can find in the day, spend it making the your wife and new born feel that you are there physically and mentally. Sorry sometimes I'm long winded.

What I'm trying to say is to take 12 weeks at the beginning, spend that precious time with them you will never get back if you don't and then boot to the ground with work, but don't let work steal precious time afterwards.

The birth of a child is a miracle in itself. Congratulations and may your family be blessed with health and happiness. Truly I say all the best and enjoy that gift that was given to you.🙏👍👍

jefe

Arsonist

3

🍁

Be there right away. There's NOTHING like it.
Also, if she ends up having a C-Section, there's a A LOT more you'll have to do it.
Congratulations!!

Beans

Big Shot

2

Enterprise Account Executive

Now, wifey needs the help, and you'll regret missing all the tiny first milestones.

braintank

Politicker

2

Enterprise Account Executive

I've seen people split it up.

It's good to be home during the first few weeks to help out mom.
However, it's also good to be home when the kiddo is older and is less "attached" to mom.
Best is to do whatever wants ;)
Congrats!

Sunbunny31

Politicker

0

Sr Sales Executive 🐰

Yeah, splitting it up is hopefully an option. Plus it makes a ton of sense for a sales rep.

CuriousFox

WR Officer

2

🦊

Yup. Immediately friend.

GDO

Politicker

1

BDM

I would try to maximise the time after birth.

Filth

Politicker

1

Live Filthy or Die Clean

As long as you can work remote you'll be fine after initial PAT. I'm dealing with the hardship of office and 6 month old at home with no real flexibility for hybrid/remote option. Everyone forgets how tough it is to juggling kids and work when they become executives I guess.

1

Sales rep

now!

Pachacuti

Politicker

1

They call me Daddy, Sales Daddy

The issue isn’t helping your wife.

The issue is what happens to your sales pipeline when you leave. 12 weeks is extremely generous but if you leave for that long you will be basically staying over. Do you want that?

So take a few weeks off when the kid is born but you need to get back to work asap.

Sunbunny31

Politicker

0

Sr Sales Executive 🐰

I wonder if the leave can be broken up? Take a few weeks a couple of times?

Revenue_Rambo

Politicker

1

Director, Revenue Enablement

Take the time off immediately.
Your job will be to take care of momma. If the wheels fall off mom, everybody suffers.

Sunbunny31

Politicker

1

Sr Sales Executive 🐰

I hate having no wheels, so I agree.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

1

Owner at *redacted*

I took mine immediately, there’s a lot to help with and my wife was understandably pretty wrecked! It’s nice you get to be their either way, but it’s great not to have work distractions.

Congratulations! And enjoy every moment, all the clichés about how fast it goes are true

saaskicker

Celebrated Contributor

1

Enterprise AE

Can you split it up? Take 4 weeks immediately and then space out the rest when mom goes back to work..

wolfofmiami

Opinionated

0

🐺

To me it makes sense to wait a few weeks or a month or two for the pat leave take like 3 days off for the delivery and being there with your wife. But it makes sense to take the full pat leave once the baby has been there for like 2-3 weeks. I’d honestly suggest asking your wife what her thoughts bc that’s the only opinion that matters. What do I know tho, I’m not married or have a kid, that I know of. 🤭

FinanceEngineer

Politicker

0

Sr Director, sales and partnerships

You need to be there early on. That’s a huge connection. Yea, it will be more fun later, but allowing both of you to take turns having the full night of sleep makes all of the difference.

SalesBeast

Politicker

0

Sales Leader

12 WEEKS?!? I’m having a kid in a few days and will likely take a few days off (still answering emails the day after it happens). If you take that long your pipeline will be done and you will be starting from square one. Honestly in sales the move is to tell them you will keep answering current prospects and just not be doing any outbound. You are going to be missing a ton of commission and pissed when others collect your checks on deals. You have a kid now, so it’s time to be a big boy and think about the family and future with what that missing commission might do to help better your family and life.

1nbatopshotfan

Politicker

0

Sales

Split it up if possible. I did 4 weeks at a time. It rocked. Company was flexible. For the first 4 weeks you’re just a butler. Baby only wants and needs mom. You’ll be there to pick them up when they cry during sleep time, but really you’ll feel worthless because they don’t want you. Good luck!

Justatitle

Big Shot

0

Account Executive

Immediately, the 3 months they change so much and you’ll want that time with your wife and newborn

Archie

Fire Starter

0

AE

Split it up. Month immediately and then rest later

Mikey

Politicker

0

Senior Regional Director

Do it as soon as the baby is born. I did this for both of mine and it was perfect.

FranchiseSalesQB

Politicker

0

Franchise Sales QB

What’s the chances you can split it?

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