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Big concerns with a teammate...

Have you guys ever worked directly with somebody who just cannot take care of themselves?


The subject of this post is one of my besties in the office but he eats like a homeless dog in Ethiopia and it's getting to be really bad. Everyday for lunch he eats some kind of Slim Jim variant with a cheese stick, and then spends 45 minutes forcing out a rock solid shit before being able to come back to his desk.


The last thing I want to do is cause a beef where there isn't one because he already eats so much of it everyday. How do I get thru to this individual without sounding like a condescending douchΓ©?

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PlanetMatt
Opinionated
+1
SDR
I would start by slipping laxatives into his water
inboundsalesrep
Politicker
+7
SDR
Wouldnt that cause him to be in the bathroom longer
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PlanetMatt
Opinionated
+1
SDR
Ever hear of adult diapers?
DeskPhoneDestroyer
Catalyst
+5
Team Lead
I suggest having him double up on the cheese sticks and slim jims. The sodium is high but the payout of having a nice salty shit eases the pain of having to double wipe.Β 
SandwichMan
Catalyst
+7
BDR Team Lead
I actually really like this approach, kinda walkin a mile in his shoes to get a better understanding? Will try, thanks DPD!
inboundsalesrep
Politicker
+7
SDR
Sodium's a myth
Chep
WR Officer
+10
Business Development Team Lead
I'd be super aggressive and start bringing in super healthy lunches. Monkey see Monkey do
Macdaddy
Arsonist
+7
Team Lead
Honestly, this reminds me of the lad I brought up yesterday. When will people understand that their body is to be treated as a temple?
CaneWolf
Politicker
+12
Call me what you want, just sign the damn contract
"Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming 'Wow! What a Ride!'" - Hunter S. Thompson
SandwichMan
Catalyst
+7
BDR Team Lead
The Bang Energy guy? That's wild because this guy also can be found drinking a Bang here and there
Macdaddy
Arsonist
+7
Team Lead
Is he a young 20 something? I see a bunch of youngsters around the office partaking in similar lifestyles.
Hotlead
Politicker
+7
Producer
We have a morbidly obese dude in our office who eats fast food for lunch every day... yes every day.Β  Me and the dude who sits next to me started talking 20 dollar bets of what it's going to be today.Β  I'm up 40 this week.

Nothing you can do to help besides make some extra spending cash
SandwichMan
Catalyst
+7
BDR Team Lead
Hot damn that sounds a lot like my boy! Lmk if you ever find a good way to deal with this!!
inboundsalesrep
Politicker
+7
SDR
Just buy lunch for him everyday and that can help solve the issue
tonysoprano
Opinionated
+5
AE
If you are that close with him, maybe try slowly dropping hints like "dude how to you actually eat like that?" and some other small things like that which might actually add up to him/her doing some self reflection on it?

tough scene
DrunkenArt
Politicker
+6
Sales Associate
While it's nasty and gross to watch someone live their life like that, it's really his choice. If that's the path he wants to go down, so be it. I would be direct and say his lifestyle isn't healthy and he should consider a change in his diet.Β 
OpalTiddyChurger
Arsonist
+9
Funbags Enthusiast
I think you should be upfront with him and tell him basically what you've said here, but that's it. Don't keep bringing it up. Speak your mind and move on. Now, if he's truly a close friend outside of work and someone you care for then I would try to encourage him into a healthier lifestyle but otherwise say your piece and be done.Β 
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sideshow_bob
Opinionated
+1
Business Owner
A lot of times this happens when people have absolutely no idea where to start. Start by pointing him in the right direction with ways to eat a little bit better. Little by littleΒ 
Whosaidit
Politicker
+6
Business Development Representative
Start eating various meat sticks with him, if he feels uncomfortable it’s working.
CaneWolf
Politicker
+12
Call me what you want, just sign the damn contract
This really isn't any of your business. I would recommend not getting into it.
SandwichMan
Catalyst
+7
BDR Team Lead
Look I hear you man, but I can't sit by and watch somebody enlist themselves for a lifetime of healthcare bills and no sex! It's no way to live
CuriousFox
WR Officer
+11
Needer of Life Alert
If this person is a friend offer to buy them lunch? Or offer to share healthy alternative snacks that you brought in? See if they take you up on the offer? Small steps if you're truly concerned.
SDMHGWarrior
Tycoon
+14
CEO
Not your monkey, not your circus
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AE88
Praised Answer
+2
Account Executive
Get him a diaper
Kinonez
Celebrated Contributor
+9
WR Enthusiast
That's a recipe for a heart attack if I ever heard one!
cifu
Opinionated
+1
SDR
choke him to dead
Ryase1113
Opinionated
+3
Regional Director
Honestly...Β  Β I say, take him to Chik-Fil-A...Β  Β if he's gonna eat like shit anyway, he should at least do it proper!
Ch
ChunkyButters
Politicker
+5
AE
Can't help someone until they want to help themselves. Unless they actually express wanting to improve their diet, eat differently, etc. you wont be able to do much for them.Β 


Depending on how you approaching the topic, it could create a rift between you two. If they see it as an attack on them, things will go south fast. You could approach something like "Hey, I want to try and eat healthier for lunch, but don't want to eat salad alone. Want to try it with me?"

I also know someone who doesn't eat lunch in the office. When they do it's pretty much snacks. But they say they just aren't usually hungry.
looper1010
Celebrated Contributor
+13
Account Executive
It'll be tough to turn him around unless he wants to.Β  You've gotta help him find his epiphany and open his eyes.Β  Otherwise your help will only fall on deaf ears or worse, ruin the relationship.Β  Any idea what motivates him?
devopsdude
Opinionated
+1
Account Executive
Why do you care?
SandwichMan
Catalyst
+7
BDR Team Lead
Holy moly this is some truly insightful stuff right here. You have opened my eyes devopsdude!!
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