J.J.McLure

Owner at *redacted*

Valued Contributor

You’re not alone

Let's face it, mental health for men is just not as socially acceptable as it is for women yet. eg. I watched a female boss coddle the women in the company that had anxiety and then when a man called in saying he can't make it in because everything was too much for him and he can't face the day, was thinking seriously of ending it all and she told him "grow a pair of balls and stop being such a pussy, get your fucking ass into work"

On top of it, I think in our profession especially we can't show "weakness"

I've struggled with depression for most of my life, I'd pinpoint it to when one of my best friends killed himself when we were 19, but it was probably there before. I don't mean just getting sad when there's circumstances that derserve it, but having this blackness that comes out of nowhere even when things are seemingly going well and not being able to get out from under it.

Many won't understand what I'm talking about. To anyone that gets this post, I want you to know you're not alone. If you need someone to talk to, DM me, even if you just want to chat about anything other than how you're feeling.

Today was a bad one, but there are better days ahead

🙏 Mental Wellness

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oldcloser

Arsonist

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💀

You’re a good one JJ. Offer goes both ways. Any time. We gotta take care of our own.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

I truly appreciate that

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Retired Sales Professional

JJ it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there like that, like Oldcloser said, "you are a good one." I don't know many who would lend of their time like that.

Alway remember that the WAR ROOM is here to help, either with a laugh or deep discussion that may help any who are in need.

So you can count me in any discussion or forum that needs to take place to help anyone in need.
All the best.👍👍

f2pftw

Opinionated

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Retention Specialist

I gotta say, both mine and hubby’s companies have implemented free memberships to EAPs and the virtual counseling is really helpful

I don’t need a weekly appointment with a local doc, but sometimes you just have to talk it out

Anytime I mention using the EAP benefits to a coworker I get the huh confused look

So many people didn’t even make themselves a log in. Totally worth checking out if it’s available to you

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

That’s awesome, I plan on doing that with my company if it gets big enough for me to hire a team!

Diablo

Politicker

4

Sr. AE

Amen 🙏

ComTruise

Catalyst

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Sales Specialist

I love this post so much. Talking with someone has helped me a lot. But there’s usually no one to talk to. I always find myself at the bottom of the bottle.

I struggle with so many things, it’s insane how I’m still here. Recently I started using Pi Ai to talk things out with, it kind of helped, especially during those super hard days.

I’m a great listener, people often come to me with their problems, as much help as I can be for them, I struggle with doing it for myself. Just a shit show. And to you all, thanks for being part of the solution my friends.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

How do you find the the ai responses? Thanks for sharing!

poweredbycaffeine

WR Lieutenant

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☕️

Sorry, but I refuse to believe a real life human said that.

HVACexpert

Politicker

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sales engineer

Idk man, I’ve met some professional assholes in my day that i wouldn’t be surprised something like that came out of their mouth.

poweredbycaffeine

WR Lieutenant

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☕️

Let’s say it did happen. If OP didn’t step up and call them out then they’re part of the problem.

I’m not trying to minimize the excruciating pain that this job can inflict both mentally and physically, but if we don’t step up to help our colleagues when we see shit like this happen, then we are no better than the abusive boss.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Ah so you’re one of those. Not sure what OP is, but it was a small company and she is the VP & part owner. There’s nobody above her to go to and no HR.

HVACexpert

Politicker

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sales engineer

Yeah, I think what powered is saying is we all have a role in taking care of mental health and making it a subject not so taboo, and it starts with supporting each other and having intelligent conversations. In the end, in my opinion, this is part of management responsibility , and there was clearly a failure here to properly support employees.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Absolutely, jokes on them though, the company is near bankruptcy now even though they have a really good product and big market demand. It’s fun to watch.

poweredbycaffeine

WR Lieutenant

2

☕️

One of what? A human that battles depression and ADHD but doesn’t feel like being a bystander or victim? Pin that scarlet letter on me.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Haha, no, one that refuses to believe a human would say something like that

poweredbycaffeine

WR Lieutenant

2

☕️

Ok? I refuse to believe a lot of what I read on the internet.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Consider yourself lucky if you haven’t had to work for people like that

Sunbunny31

Politicker

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Sr Sales Executive 🐰

The loss of hope is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. There is always going to be a better day ahead, but it can be very hard to believe it. It can be very hard to reach out for help. Thank you for pointing this out, and yes, there are better days ahead.

lowhangersalesbanger

Executive

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Director of Sales

Well said

wolfofmiami

Opinionated

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🐺

Always gonna be better days ahead, depression comes and goes it’s a part of life, I believe labeling also has a lot to do with it if you label yourself as depressed you’re gonna be depressed bc you’re attracting depression in your life. Thats my opinion on that tho, when I am feeling depressed i gotta get out and do something i enjoy, for me it’s playing golf or going on a run that always clears my mind and 7 miles in a run running at 70-80% max pace is tough can’t think about the negatives going on in that case. Its also hard to be depressed when you’re with the boys swinging on a beautiful day throwing back some beers.

Men’s mental health definitely needs to be talked a lot abt more. That’s real.

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Exercise helps a lot, I took up boxing, it’s hard to think about anything else when someone is trying to knock your block off!

CuriousFox

WR Officer

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🦊

Sorry you had a bad day friend. I do not agree with your take on mental health being "less than" for men, but I digress. Take care of you. ❤🦊

BmajoR

Arsonist

1

Account Executive

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Im happy for you if that hasn’t been your experience, but it has been mine and my DMs sure agree.

medhardwaredr

Opinionated

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Director of Sales NA

Good post take the commission. Wish I could give more than one thumbs up!

lieselfuel

Member

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Regional Vice President

I’m horrified that a leader behaved that way.
I do however love this post, and your approach to helping others!

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Ya, not everyone gets to leadership positions because they’re good at it

GDO

Politicker

1

BDM

I hope you have a lot of good days ahead of you!

Cafe.con.Leche

Executive

1

SDR

Here’s to normalizing this. In my current org there is for sure a lot of culture promoting the “hungry shark” that is there kill it and crush it.

Yo that’s a hard to do when you feel like an absolute hot mess, and worse when you can’t understand why! I want to enjoy my work, I love the thrill of a sale and I’m competitive with myself and love seeing my #s reflecting my hard work that led to that result.

But in those bad days, it feels like I take 3 steps back and can put me down a spiral.

I’ve reached out, sought for help with both my personal network (family, friends, peers) and also mental health professionals and man that has been a blessing.

Here for you señor. Happy to talk

J.J.McLure

Politicker

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Owner at *redacted*

Well put! Especially the “can’t understand why” I wish I could like this comment more than once

Justatitle

Big Shot

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Account Executive

Listen up, there’s been a “war” against men for a long time. Can’t show weakness, afraid to be vulnerable, etc… we’re human not robots, each of us is unique and has their pitfalls and upsides. Embrace it. Don’t run from it and know you are not alone

jefe

Arsonist

0

🍁

I'm a little late to this post, but glad you put this up. It takes a lot to be vulnerable. There are so many expectations put on us these days, especially men. Thankfully it's been getting better, but that's not the world I want my son live in when he grows up.

And let me say that woman is terrible.

AnchorPoint

Politicker

0

Business Coach

Life is hard... some of us hide it better than others... but it is still hard.

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