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SADNESSLieutenant

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Day 74 of 1.25 sales jobs - I think I just discovered I'm in an abusive relationship

But I have convinced myself it's not. The scratching, hitting, throwing, threatening to take her life, the no personal or alone time or time for any of my own interests because it means I don't love her if I'd rather do something else for once.


It's really hard and I think I've justified it away for too long but. I think starting tomorrow I'm gonna try to gather some evidence somehow maybe recording or something but yeah.


That's the update.


Much Love,

The kid

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Sunbunny31
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Sr Sales Executive 🐰
Oh no. I'm not a doctor, but that's manipulative behavior at the very least.

The physical part is abuse, yes.

I'm so sorry. She needs more help than you can possibly give her. Are you able to find another place to live without her?
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
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Officer of ♥️
Well, it's my apartment. So I just need to find a way to get her out without getting hurt or her hurting herself..
Sunbunny31
Politicker
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Sr Sales Executive 🐰
She might - or threaten it. That's how she stays in control over you.

I'm so sorry. I'm sorry, I forgot - are you personally in therapy? You need some help dealing with this situation ASAP that goes beyond anybody here's ability to help.
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
1
Officer of ♥️
Yeah she threatens it so gonna see if I can get her out in a hospital with the police somehow maybe secretly record something

Im not. Yeah i need to but just. she wouldn't let me. she's a little.. controlling and aggressive.
Sunbunny31
Politicker
1
Sr Sales Executive 🐰
Yeah, that is very controlling. You have the right to take care of yourself. And you should.
TennisandSales
Politicker
5
Head Of Sales
my guy. sorry to hear this.

I wish I had advice on how to handle this but i dont. ive never had to go through it.

but i think you should try to have someone else on your team to help you navigate this. not sure if you have talked about this with anyone else your close with but it could be helpful if you have those types of ppl in your life.
Fenderbaum
Politicker
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Retired Choirboy🪕
It sounds like she's in need of some serious professional help. Just be careful as domestic abuse laws vary by state, but just know it could easily go sideways on you if you don't have any help and/or video proof.

The National Domestic Abuse Hotline can be accessed via the nationwide number 1−800−799−SAFE(7233). Do not do this alone! PLEASE be careful.

Fenderbaum
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Retired Choirboy🪕
https://www.thehotline.org/
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
0
Officer of ♥️
what could go sideways on me?
Sunbunny31
Politicker
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Sr Sales Executive 🐰
If she tells the police you're the abusive one, for example.
Sunbunny31
Politicker
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Sr Sales Executive 🐰
Excellent resources. Thanks for providing them.
Fenderbaum
Politicker
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Retired Choirboy🪕
I should have been more specific...the police are bound by law, in some states, to arrest the accused no matter what. I've seen it countless times. Call the number or chat on that website.
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
2
Officer of ♥️
im on the opposite side of the coast from where i grew up with no friends or family but I'm gonna see if I can maybe get the police involved and hospital visit for her
CuriousFox
WR Officer
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Dude go get your own place. She needs a therapist. You are not a board certified physician.
SADNESSLieutenant
Politicker
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Officer of ♥️
it is my own place
Sunbunny31
Politicker
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Sr Sales Executive 🐰
In California, evicting people, even if they’re not on leases or paying rent, can be extremely difficult. I’m not sure what state you’re in, but you may want to see if you can find a renter’s/tenant’s rights group and see what your legal options are. So sorry.
CuriousFox
WR Officer
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🦊
California is always different. I never know what to say for that state. Thanks 🐇
Sunbunny31
Politicker
2
Sr Sales Executive 🐰
I don't know muchof the time either. Lots of protections in place, but the flip side is sometimes the wrong person is protected or there are challenges.

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