CadenceCombat

Account Executive

How to remain calm when being fucked over

Looking for some advice: When your company, manager or colleague knowingly fucks you over, how do you not completely flip your shit?

it goes without saying: Put your energy towards finding a new opportunity. I get that.

But, in the moment, how do you talk yourself off the ledge from rage quitting long enough to find a different employer?

Uh, asking for a friend… 👀

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Sunbunny31

Politicker

Sr Sales Executive 🐰

So. Frustrating.

Plot your revenge, visualize how you’d burn the place down, savor the thought…and then use that energy to seek out new employment while you keep that fire to yourself. The best revenge will be your success - elsewhere. Especially if you land at a competitor and can burn then by winning opportunities from them.

Other than that, sorry. :(

Filth

Politicker

Live Filthy or Die Clean

A favorite quote of mine (from a fantasy novel, "The Warded Man") comes to mind:
I am the palm and this is only wind. I will bend, but I will not break.

Sunbunny31

Politicker

Sr Sales Executive 🐰

I like this. Thanks!

Rosie

Catalyst

Sales Director

That´s the way!

UI UX Designer

sorry

oldcloser

Arsonist

💀

I don’t cope with this kind of shit really well. I usually turn to some sort of self-aggrandizing anger and mentally destroy the offender for about 3 weeks. All of this head noise while the bastard has no idea I’m even pissed.

Clearly I need therapy.
Don’t let it happen to you, too.
Breathe. It ain’t worth it.

RandyLahey

Politicker

Account Manager

I’m the same way. Run through these wild revenge fantasies, win fake arguments in my head, yeah that’ll show em…

CadenceCombat

Tycoon

Account Executive

😂 cut from the same cloth

CuriousFox

WR Officer

🦊

Step away from the keyboard. Go outside. Lose your shit. Rage. Get it out. Then go back to what you were doing 😎

CadenceCombat

Tycoon

Account Executive

Thank you.

I know all this and have given this advice but it just doesn’t register in the heat of the moment.

Sometimes you just need a little empathy to get you through.

Love you @CuriousFox @sales_pirate @AnchorPoint @RandyLahey @oldcloser @Sunbunny31 @antiASKHOLE @poweredbycaffeine

CuriousFox

WR Officer

🦊

And we love you bb. We OGs stick together 🦊

antiASKHOLE

Tycoon

Bravado's Resident Asshole

We've got your back, brother. I instantly start thinking of "little people" running around kicking people in the shins, then proceeding to laugh and run away. Gets me EVERY TIME!

pirate

Big Shot

🦜☠️ Account Executive

We got you
Keep swimming

Sunbunny31

Politicker

Sr Sales Executive 🐰

Advice is easy to give but hard to follow when you're right in the middle of it.

antiASKHOLE

Tycoon

Bravado's Resident Asshole

It sucks when this happens. Unfortunately, most people in the world aren’t thinking about how their actions affect others finances, family, well-being, etc.

Be the meek one and just know there are people that are out there in your next opportunity that won’t do that to you. Coming from a guy that is having the same thing happen.

RandyLahey

Politicker

Account Manager

It’s not worth it Cadence.

Are you still in a ramp?

Unless you truly can no longer bear it or until you’ve found a job offer, keep collecting the paycheck try to not let it seep into other aspects of your life.

Easier said than done, I know.

I’m sorry you are going through this, it’s an awful feeling. You’ll find something better in due time.

CadenceCombat

Tycoon

Account Executive

I know, but…

CuriousFox

WR Officer

🦊

THE GOLDEN GOD

AnchorPoint

Politicker

Business Coach

Life is hard, so buckle up. Are you sure the company is at fault... or is it your manager? If the latter, go over their head.

pirate

Big Shot

🦜☠️ Account Executive

I guess find other meaningful things in your life. I work and it enables me do what I want outside work... So that helps to deal with most things at work without getting too pissed at what is happening. Quitting helps but I think now a lot of companies are struggling

Justatitle

Big Shot

Account Executive

This is really really hard and I wish I could go back to my younger self to give youngertitle this same advice. Reacting and blowing up achieves nothing and in fact 30 minutes after you blow up you feel guilty and wish you would have handled it differently. I never rage quit but I did change companies due to boiled up frustrations, which was not a mistake but I could have handled it better.

CadenceCombat

Tycoon

Account Executive

Thank you. Helps to hear this.

saaskicker

Celebrated Contributor

Enterprise AE

this one stings, +1 to @CuriousFox - unplug and then realize it's just work.

CuriousFox

WR Officer

🦊

It took me a very long time to figure this one out myself. 😉

SaaSguy

Tycoon

Account Executive

Hope things get better for ya, been there before.

CPTAmerica

Opinionated

President/CRO

Breath and realize that your silence will scare them far more than anything you can say :)

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE

Move on. Revenge and bitterness will follow you for YEARS

LeadMachine

Opinionated

Sr. BDR

What comes around goes around, and they shall reap what they shall sow. Perhaps, a time comes where roles will be reversed, and you take the high road and let others see. Or, throw that BS to the wind, and perhaps a weird accident should befall them, heaven forbid. Just don't let others see in that case. Such a dichotomy of wisdom!

kittychachas

Valued Contributor

VP/Director of Sales

Take a deep breath. Go for a walk. Clear your mind. Then start to think about your exit plan.

UI UX Designer

So Frau

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